How to Be Single and Happy Quotes

“what seems universally true is that when we move from feeling blinded by thoughts to more realistic assessments, it’s easier to harness our resources to consider, how can I can cope?”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. —ARISTOTLE”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“A crucial part of self-compassion is noticing pain and adding kindness.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“I think the approach of quickly trying to look for the good is bound to backfire, because it feels dismissive of pain.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Self-criticism depletes us, while self-care makes us more endearing; the latter is associated with healthier romantic relationships and an enhanced ability to give to others.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Taking care of yourself isn’t about settling for being single. It’s something you deserve whether you’re in a relationship or not.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“As Brach powerfully describes, “Perhaps the biggest tragedy in our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns. Entangled in the trance of unworthiness, we grow accustomed to caging ourselves in with self-judgment and anxiety, with restlessness and dissatisfaction.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“So much in our culture reinforces the idea that a relationship is everything, but just as it’s financially smart to have a diversified portfolio of investments, the more you strive to make as many aspects in your life as meaningful as possible, the more satisfied you’ll feel.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Autonomy literally refers to regulating yourself. Having some freedom to choose what matters, from life values to design details, makes the rest of life feel full of choices too.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“In living a life based on values, we need to make room for self-care too.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Self-control is not just a puritanical virtue. It is a key psychological trait that breeds success at work and play—and in overcoming life’s hardship,” according to Roy Baumeister. When we depend on external factors, including other people, to live well, life feels risky.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“At one time, psychologists used to promote building self-esteem. Now, the wisdom in the field is that self-control, doing what we know is wise, even when we aren’t in the mood,”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“The only way to reliably feel best is by learning to sit with feelings, even if they are painful. No matter who is around, you can never break up with your emotions. That’s a good thing, since they have a lot to teach us.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“After decades of research, Hayes and his coauthors put it this way: “Many forms of psychopathology can be conceptualized as unhealthy efforts to escape and avoid emotions, thoughts, memories. . . .” In other words, many of our problems are actually caused or exacerbated by the imperfect solution of trying to avoid our pain.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“If your concerns are based on your values and inner wisdom, allow fear of regret to be there, and act courageously, anyway.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“The takeaway is, we don’t need to run from regret. Rather, we can learn from our past and treat our mistakes and ourselves with kindness”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“If we’re stuck in regret, we don’t have resources left to invest elsewhere.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Given that we’re social beings and want to connect, regrets on the topic of love are not only felt intensely, but also the hardest to overcome. If you struggle with regret, letting go of your incriminating story and forgiving yourself is a liberating choice.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“It’s natural to want to reach out to friends and talk through details of our experiences. The sad reality, though, is that when we start ruminating, our loved ones may start to burn out.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“When you let yourself be a pessimistic forecaster or your own private bully, it’s hard to find inner peace.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“when we feel intensely or notice that we’re in emotion mind, it’s much harder to access our ability to think reasonably.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. —WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“I hope that by replacing the husband treadmill with a more mindful mindset, you can build what Sharon Salzberg describes as “a heart as wide as the world.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“When it comes to finding love, while you may not be able to conjure up the right partner instantly, you can change your mindset on what being single means.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“While the single people described did feel less satisfied with their relationship status and lonelier than those who were coupled, their satisfaction with life, self-esteem, attractiveness, and extroversion were comparable to that of people in relationships.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“plan. I retired from ruminating (thousands of times). I told myself that what was in my control was being kind, patient, present, and grateful. Yes,”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Having your feelings dismissed, or being ignored, leads to difficulties in managing emotions, according to Linehan,”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“imagining that you will end up alone affects your ability to contemplate anything in a rational way, which makes it tough to cope with the tests that will inevitably arise in your life.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“What happens when you worry continuously about ending up alone, the way Rachel does? The answer is that you actually lose your mind—or rather, your ability to think clearly.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“We designed a workshop introducing hundreds of employees to the notion that jobs are not static sculptures but flexible building blocks.” After the ninety-minute intervention, in which the participants were encouraged to think more creatively about ways of customizing their positions (i.e., adapt them so that what they did every day was aligned with their personal vision), these employees reported being happier and were 70 percent more likely to land a promotion than their peers who hadn’t participated in the workshop.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate