How to Be Single and Happy Quotes

“As speaker and author Byron Katie asks, “Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.” When you see your incredible self, you won’t feel like your worth lies outside of you and you’ll also be more likely to keep good company.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“The belief that your happiness hinges on an external circumstance that you can’t control (i.e., meeting a romantic partner) not only makes it harder to find love, but it also sets you up for unhappiness. Letting go of the maddening myth that happiness comes from coupling up is the first step to freedom. Stressing out about meeting someone will not help you meet that person any faster. The healthiest way to increase your chances of finding love is to increase your happiness, right now.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“when we move from feeling blinded by thoughts to more realistic assessments, it’s easier to harness our resources to consider, how can I can cope?”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“At times, we get so swept up by an emotion or thought that we don’t follow through and imagine that whatever the outcome, we’ll most likely manage to cope. The worst is rarely as bad as we think.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“letting go of the prediction that her bad feelings would go on and on, and instead to sit with her current experience just as it was in this moment.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Acceptance makes pain more tolerable, and when things feel too hard to sit with, that’s a sign that practicing acceptance will help.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“to feel connected, we need a core group, not a single person.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“A Chapman University study of twenty-five thousand people led by sociologist Brian Gillespie found that the two biggest predictors of life satisfaction are quality of friendships and job engagement.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“At one time, psychologists used to promote building self-esteem. Now, the wisdom in the field is that self-control, doing what we know is wise, even when we aren’t in the mood, is the key to evolving and growing.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. —RUMI”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“When we glorify relationships and assume that a person completes us, it follows that if that person disappoints us, we are apt to feel especially pained.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“When we fixate on the idea that there’s a best option, we find ourselves feeling dissatisfied with any alternatives, and less able to commit to our existing choices.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“ultimate peace of mind resides in being in the current moment”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“According to Roy Baumeister’s research on happiness, believing your life is relatively easy correlates with happiness, while thinking your life is difficult predicts unhappiness. Letting go of assumptions, stereotypes, and affective forecasts and adopting a more hopeful perspective can increase your happiness. A”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Being present in your life is the opposite of waiting for love, and research suggests that the more present you can be, the more fulfillment you will experience.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“My point is that everyone can benefit from the reminder that our unfulfilled fantasies, like our stereotypes, are just thoughts. My prescription is for you to start practicing joyful living now.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“told myself that what was in my control was being kind, patient, present, and grateful. Yes, I wanted to meet someone, but that wasn’t my sole reason for living, and this quest wasn’t going to ruin me the way it had seemed to for years. I realized that I didn’t deserve to feel ashamed about being single, and stopped acting embarrassed.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Setting a goal and working to achieve it doesn’t ensure success, no matter how diligently we try, and that leads to disappointment, one of the most depressing emotions. Disappointment can make us feel powerless, and psychologists actually talk about two different types: outcome-related disappointment (when things didn’t go as we’d hoped) and person-related disappointment (when people let us down).”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Bringing your awareness to your emotions is a mindfulness practice that can free you.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“trusting that your actions will create the outcomes you crave can be a huge source of hope and meaning.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Trying to make a thought go away guarantees that it will stick around.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“The more mindful you are, the more readily you’ll be able to change your thoughts.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Simply put, mindfulness is thinking differently about thinking. Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you must believe that thought.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“So instead of lying awake circling over your mistakes and ongoing to-dos, a nice alternative may be practicing gratitude for a couple of minutes, then spending a moment purposefully noticing what you’ve done well, which also seems like a better way to prepare for a good night’s sleep.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“Finish each day and be done with it . . . To-morrow is a new day; you shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense. —RALPH WALDO EMERSON”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“…went on to clarify that when we’re mindful, instead of chasing something like money, we ask ourselves: What would I do if I had more money? Maybe we’d travel more or spend more time with loved ones. Ironically, by focusing on a goal like “more money” we may shut out opportunities for adventure and fun with friends.”
― Jennifer Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“I decided that I was willing to go through pain, guilt, and loneliness to act courageously. I realized that I could sit with thoughts of anticipated aloneness if it meant I would be able to live my life in a way that fit with my most cherished values.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“My sense, influenced by principles in DBT, is that it’s inevitable that you’ll face dissatisfaction in relationships.”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate

“I’ve come to believe that there are four main paths to loneliness: Judging ourselves Judging others Judging our time: I’m busy! Judging the importance: Why bother?”
― Jenny Taitz, How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate