Modern Loss Quotes

“We are imperfect people mourning imperfect people imperfectly. But these imperfections make us no less deserving of empathy and loving expressions of grief.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“I was very young to learn that there exists a pain so profound that it should kill you but lacks the mercy.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“I know what real fear feels like. Fear that keeps you up at night, knowing morning will bring you one day closer to being without the person you love.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Home is where the heart is, the old adage goes, and it's generally understood to mean the place where those dearest to us are. But when those people don't live there anymore, when they don't live anymore, what becomes of home?”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Everyone will lose somebody they love. And I don't say that as a threat, I say it as a fact.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“And sometimes it's nothing: just because some people aren't baring their souls on a digital platform doesn't mean they're not in pain.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Love is love. Gender is just spare parts.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“What I learned most immediately is that the universe doesn't give a fig about you, dead mother or not. It will still mess you up, in matters large and small.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Our grief can't just be buried alongside the ones we love. Even years after our losses, we still have moments of gut-wrenching sadness.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“The dead never truly leave us, the scars serve as both pain and protection, that love is the most powerful force on earth.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“I checked in with my heart. It was no longer there. And this was no longer home.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Because yeah, I may feel broken, black and blue, but I'm still standing, ready to fight.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Secrets are unfinished business, and grief is always complicated by unfinished business.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“I was tired because I knew my life deserved more than tiptoeing around a closet. People have always acknowledged my honesty. But what kind of honest person lies about his very core.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“If God or the idea of God has to do with love, I like to think that he or she was present when that vow was made; if true love has ever made itself manifest, it was in that moment.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“We are walking through hell right now, and there is no one I would rather be walking with.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“If the whole point of getting into a relationship is to fall completely and madly and utterly in love to the point where you feel like you can't live without someone, but you know that you can, are you able to love completely?”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“But I believe I will always feel okay living without someone, in a way that others cannot understand.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“But it was the kind of romance that shows you the future, the sun, moon, and stars, when you look into someone's eyes.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“The yearning for human connection, whether two hours or a few sweet months, is the desire to be taught, to be shown new things, to hear new stories, to get a slightly widened worldview.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Grief alters us, body and mind, by splitting us in two. It is the only way to live with it and not be destroyed by it.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“All these vanishings were extremely bad timing, because if grief does anything, it makes you feel alone.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“There were years of therapy, some trial and error with antidepressants.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“The saddest thing about the sadness I have over his death is that I have no place to put it.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Things change. Glasses break. Plans are derailed. But she said, "You pick yourself up, brush off the glass, and keep moving. I'm here for you.”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Loss happens, and it can happen earlier than we'd like to think it can/”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.

“Everyone else had assured us "time would heal" or we'd "get past it," but how did they know?”
― Rebecca Soffer, Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome.