4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere! Quotes

“When a problem arises between two people, it’s very easy for one person to think the other person is the problem. However, if we think that way and make the other person “the problem” then we in effect dehumanize them – i.e., we perceive them no longer as a person, but as a problem that needs to be fixed.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Communication Skills slow down the conversation to enable understanding to happen faster.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Author Josephine Billings similarly said”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“empathy”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Positive Self-Talk:
We are what we think. Fill your mind with positive self-talk (I can do it, I’m a person of great value, I have talents that can help others).”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“I am unique, special, valuable. There is no one else like me in all the world. I am one of a kind with my own unique talents, abilities, and personality. I have much to contribute to this world. I want to be the best person I can be, and I want to grow and strengthen ALL my relationships at home, at work, anywhere! I will strive my best to achieve these goals.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“The Pause helps me stop my wayward thinking on the spot—like a stoplight. Then I Reflect on the importance of the person and what they’re talking about or the situation, I Adjust my focus and intentionality to value and zero in on them and what they’re saying and feeling, and finally I Act by being more empathically present.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“I’ve found this to be a very helpful mantra: Pause. Reflect. Adjust. Act.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Listening is really a very active act. It’s not simply where you throw the words (active)”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Keep in mind that emotions are feelings—they are not in word form. When someone wants to express in words what they are feeling (their wants, desires, concerns, etc.) they take those feelings and cycle them through their brain to try to come up with the best words (vocabulary) to explain those feelings in a coherent way. The words they choose and the sentences they say are the best they can come up with in the moment. If you listen only to the words then you might miss a lot of the underlying meaning.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Chapter 10 The 3 A’s: Applaud, Admire, Appreciate “Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” ~ Margaret Cousins”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“To see the good rather than the bad. To look from a higher viewpoint and see the special and unique rather than the normal and mundane.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“You are more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel yourself into action.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Why are they so quiet?” There may be several reasons and one might be that they’re not sure it’s safe to say what they want to say without being misunderstood, ridiculed, or deluged with a lot of unsolicited advice or suggestions. If they’ve experienced some of those things in the past, they are liable to clam up, be silent, and keep their thoughts to themselves. In their mind, it’s better to be safe than sorry.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“When there are so many emotions swirling inside a person, they have the need to express those feelings in words in order for them to actually hear and understand more clearly what’s going on inside their own mind and heart. They may need to talk it out so that they can see all the pieces and how they fit together before their emotions make sense to them.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ~ Stephen R. Covey”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“empathy”, the ability—a developed skill, actually—to vicariously put yourself in another person’s shoes and try to see from their point of view, their world, their perspective”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Relationships are living things that require care and nutrients to grow well. The care is the love and intentionality we invest into them. The nutrients are the things we actually do—the quality time we spend together, the ways we support each other, the words of encouragement—and our communication skills are the means we use to tend the relationship.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“the most meaningful ones in your life. Relationships are living things that require care and nutrients to grow well. The care is the love and intentionality we invest into them. The nutrients are the things we actually do—the quality time we spend together, the ways we support each other, the words of encouragement—and our communication skills are the means we use to tend the relationship.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“The master of the garden is the one who waters it, trims the branches, plants the seeds, and pulls the weeds.”
~ Vera Nazarian”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Let the speaker finish what they’re saying—don’t jump in and try to finish their sentence even if you think it’s helpful; it will only cut them off and make it your statement instead of theirs.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“The Golden Rule says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” But there’s also a Platinum Rule which I believe is even more explicitly other-centered: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other’s eyes for an instant?”
~ Henry David Thoreau”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!

“Rule”
― Bento C. Leal III, 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere!