Something Gained Quotes

“Orient yourself to the fact that another person’s words and actions, although they may impact your experience, aren’t really about you. Instead, they are a reflection of that person’s inner, wounded self, lashing out from fear and pain. Don’t make your Ex’s unkind words, lying, cheating or other misdeeds mean anything about you, because they do not. The more you can move from opponent to scientific observer of your Ex, the easier it will be to stop taking things personally. This is a huge step toward letting go. Don’t forget that you, too, have an unconscious wounded self. Look at your own thoughts and behaviors for clues to your own unhealed wounds and put your focus on increasing your own self-awareness and healing yourself.”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce

“What’s in your past doesn’t matter. Neither does what you plan to do at some future time. What matters is what you do with this moment. It’s making the conscious choice to use this very minute to move you closer to what you want in your life. There is no in-between.”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce

“It sparked a deep recognition inside of me.”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce

“One chapter of your life is over. The rest of your story is up to you. Get started!”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce

“What's in your past doesn't matter. Neither does what you plan to do at some future time. What matters is what you do with this moment. You have the power to change your life for the better starting right this minute.”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce

“Let's shift from moralizing about and lamenting divorce to understanding that a successful marriage, no matter the length, is one that contributes to knowing ourselves better and evolving into more loving and compassionate people.”
― Deb Purdy, Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce