To Stay or Not to Stay Quotes

“This may not seem like rocket science, because it isn’t; however, there is a very clear message being given from within, you just have to be still and listen to your intuition. Intuition is our body’s self-regulating system that is designed to help us. It is associated with the right, more creative side of the brain, and, if we truly listen to it, we will always do what is right for us. Intuition is always the first voice you hear in your head. This is the voice that lets you know what you truly want. The second voice you hear is your ego. The ego is associated with reason and reality, the left side of the brain, which is the more rational and logical side. This is the voice that will challenge your intuition, causing you to question what you want. This is usually the voice that tells you that you will fail, that you can’t make it on your own, that s/he is good inside even though they sometimes hit me, etc.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“According to Dr. Phil, there is not a magic number for the quantity of sex for a married couple that is considered “normal”, as long as the couple talks about sex and both feel satisfied. But per a Newsweek article, back from 2003, if couples are having sex no more than 10 times a year, then that constitutes a sexless marriage.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“Hope and fear is a feeling with two sides, if there is one, there’s always the other. If there is neither, then we have hopelessness.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“You’re always wondering whether you should be with this person.  It is very well your intuition calling! (We will get more into this in the next chapter). If you’re always questioning your relationship, and thinking about leaving on a regular basis then there are two things going on – either you don’t know yourself well enough to know whether you should be in your current relationship, or you DO know yourself well enough to know whether you should be in your current relationship.  In either case, the answer is the same (though the reasoning is different) – it’s likely time to do something.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“Silence. Talk may be cheap and silence may be golden, but not in a relationship. When you’re in love, communication helps you both open your minds and assists in creating a strong bond. Do both of you spend your evenings watching your favorite television shows after work, and hardly talk about anything with each other? It may seem like a perfect way to relax after a tiring and long day, but over time, this lack of communication will disconnect you from each other. And soon enough, both of you won’t have anything to share with each other because your minds and ideas are so far apart.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“Checking up on each other. When trust and respect start to wane in one area, it can become open game in all others. This is usually when a spouse will begin to spy on their spouse. It may start with checking his or her email that was left open on the computer. Then progress to their cell phone calls and text messages, social media, suit jackets, pant pockets, pocketbooks, and on and on. All this does is deepen the fragility of the relationship. If you want to know something, just ask. You may not get an honest answer, but at least you are not stooping to snooping. Blanket trust is essential in relationships and if you do not trust your spouse that doesn’t give you a right to snoop, it is usually a signal that help is needed in the relationship.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“Loss of trust and respect. Respect for each other is crucial in a relationship. If you don’t respect your spouse, s/he will start to shy away from giving suggestions or even playing a part in the functioning of the relationship. And almost all the time, your partner will end up getting attracted to someone else who respects them and likes them for the person they are.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“Avoiding conflict and avoiding resolutions. Sometimes, it’s easier to overlook a few differences rather than pick a fight over it. But if something bothers you, don’t avoid talking about it with your partner. If you find yourself grumbling or eye rolling to yourself about something, be it the dirty sink or the clothes lying around, but you still avoid talking about it to your partner, it’ll do more damage than good. The rage and resentment that accumulates inside you would start to distance you from your partner, and unfairly, your partner would have no idea as to what’s bothering you.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“However, if you can’t accept your partner as they are right now, then you’re not in love with your partner – you’re in love with the idea of your partner – either who they once were, or who you want them to be.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“You’re waiting for your partner to change. If you are constantly expecting your spouse to change, then you are stuck in a victim mindset. It’s like standing at a crosswalk waiting for the other person to push the walk button and blaming that person as to why you’re late to work. Waiting for someone else to change is a waste of energy, but mostly a waste of time. If you want someone to change or see change happen, then make change happen from within.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage

“According to Dr. Stanley J. Gross, “How we act in our committed relationships is largely the result of how we experienced relationships in our family-of-origin. We often talk, walk, eat, think, and may even vote like our parents. We may not realize how influential they have been in our development.” What this means is we often behave like our parents did in their relationships, a kind of monkey see monkey do effect. The experts agree we learn how to love by imitating and learning from our families of origin.”
― Christine Marie, To Stay or Not to Stay: How to Know When It's Time to Leave Your Marriage