Supernormal Quotes

“Among the most supported theories is that what is actually most useful about telling our secrets goes further than simple stress release; putting our experiences into words helps us begin to make sense of our thoughts and feelings. Remember, especially for children, secrets are often the product of moments when we say to ourselves, if we say anything at all, “There are no words. I don’t know what to do with that. I don’t know where to put that.” What does it mean, then, to take a feeling or an experience and, literally, “put it into words”? Words are labels and categories. They are boxes that organize the scattered contents of our minds. So when we talk about our experiences we are sorting them out, whether we intend to be or not, just by putting them into places where they might fit. We are able to say, “There are words. I do know what to do with that. I do know where to put that.” The very act of doing so makes our most confusing or disturbing experiences more organized and understandable, and it makes them less scary and upsetting as well. Like P. D. James said about the detective story, putting feelings into words can be a restoration of order.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“One thing I have learned is that many, many people feel isolated with similar problems, unaware that they are not as alone or as different as they think.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. —Maya Angelou”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“Education is an intervention,”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“To benefit from the anger that we fell, we must move from being a victim to being an activist, at least on our own behalf.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“Success often came not from being in the right place at the right time, but from being able to recognise being in the right place at the right time.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal

“Anger is an emotion with an adaptive value. Often, but not always, to feel angry is perceived injustice, an unfairness that results from the misdeeds of others. Anger is a signal that something has gone wrong. Something hurts.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“childhood adversity “may be the leading cause of poor health among adults in the United States.” This is because the chronic stress puts us at risk for all sorts of ailments down the line—from ulcers and depression to cancer and autoimmune diseases. And make no mistake, family heroes are not impervious to this kind of stress. They may be more successful than others at battling back against it—at putting together a life in spite of it—but here is the rub: Battling back is stressful, too.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“To benefit from the anger that we feel, we must move from being a victim to being an activist, at least on our own behalf.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience

“When we cannot connect something we see or hear to something we have seen or heard before, or when the words will simply not do an experience justice, "trauma mocks language," says feminists scholar Leigh Gilmore, "and it confronts it with its insufficiency." We literally do not know how to think about it. The unlinkable is unthinkable.”
― Meg Jay, Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience