Resilient Grieving Quotes

“GRIEF IS A BY-PRODUCT of love. Because we loved, so must we grieve when the person we love is no longer physically with us. But the fact that they’ve gone doesn’t mean that we must stop loving them, or thinking about them. Coming to terms with this fact, understanding that your love for that person never dies, is a major advance in our understanding of grief.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“Throwing yourselves into recovery doesn’t mean hiding from grief, pain, misery, aching. It just means you go with the present experience—when these emotions come, you open up to them and let them in—but you choose to get up in the morning and get out in the knowledge that, if you want to win this fight for survival, you’ve got to step up and take control.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“it will always be different, with your loss part of your new world and personal identity. But that doesn’t mean you won’t function effectively and meaningfully again, or fully embrace a life full of love and laughter, alongside plentiful memories of those who once stood beside you.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“We can develop habits that help us feel gratitude, contentment, and joy, without diminishing how desperately we miss our loved one.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that,” she writes. So, this is just the way life is. Just like that. The answer to living in a world where there are no constants is, says Chödrön, to allow room for all this to happen, accept that change will occur, that life contains much suffering, and to allow “room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”7”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“some people very quickly develop a hunger for tools to help them cope with grief, and that there is nothing wrong with the desire for action—for what might be called proactive participation in the grieving process.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“the majority of people are resilient in the face of trauma, and recover to pre-trauma physical and emotional functioning without the need of professional assistance; that certain “protective factors” have been shown to promote positive responses to trauma; and that parenting styles following significantly stressful life experiences have a substantial impact on children’s functioning.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“To laugh often and love much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.1”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

“Everything happens for a reason. “Let me be crystal clear: If you’ve faced a tragedy and someone tells you in any way, shape, or form that your tragedy was meant to be, that it happened for a reason, that it will make you a better person, or that taking responsibility for it will fix it, you have every right to remove them from your life,” writes blogger Tim Lawrence.”
― Lucy Hone, Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything