Single, Gay, Christian Quotes

“Sometimes I fall asleep and dream about a world like that. I dream about a world where I’m madly in love with Jesus and with another guy. At first the other guy and I are pursuing celibacy together, but then we change our minds and get married and have adventures and grow old together. But even in the middle of the dream, I don’t quite believe it.” “Why not? Couldn’t you do all those things if you wanted to?” “When I look into the eyes of my imaginary husband, I realize it’s not really him I’m in love with. I’m in love with the guy from the beginning of the dream, the guy who’s so passionately in love with the Jesus of the Bible that he would rather deny himself for his entire life than risk breaking his Savior’s heart. I’m in love with the guy willing to face the costs of celibacy. If he becomes someone else, I become less eager to marry him.”
― Gregory Coles, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity

“Straight men don’t face the struggle I face, and I envy them for that. But they too often miss out on the chance to know other men deeply. The “masculinity” they’ve learned from society teaches them to hold one another at a distance, to befriend with bravado instead of with sincerity. My gay heart knows by instinct what so many straight men must fight to learn: that men were designed to know one another deeply, to be intimate, to love with a love that isn’t afraid of looking unmasculine.”
― Gregory Coles, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity

“We became friends, close friends, closer friends. We shared secrets. My heart felt more whole when I was with him. When we were apart, I thought about him. I was in love. Doomsday was upon us. And then, to my surprise, doomsday never came. As our relationship grew stronger and deeper, it became more life-giving. I loved him (in a messy, don’t-try-this-at-home-kids kind of way), and he loved me (though rather differently, I assumed), and it was strange and wonderful and at the same time perfectly ordinary. The fact that I was drawn to him in too many ways—that I had to struggle not to make him the object of my fantasies—that made things even more complicated. But it was worth the struggle to love and be loved deeply.”
― Gregory Coles, Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity