Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency Quotes

“There is little in our lives we need to do that we cannot do better if we are peaceful.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to say it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“When emotional energy comes our way, we feel it. We take a few moments, acknowledge the sensation, and move on to the next step. We don't censor. We don't block. We don't run from. We don't tell ourselves, "Don't feel that. Something must be wrong with me." We don't pass judgment on ourselves for our feelings. We experience them. We allow the energy to pass through our bodies, we accept it as being our emotional energy, our feeling, We say, "Okay." Next we do that mystical thing so many people refer to as "dealing with our feelings." We appropriately respond to our emotion. We examine thoughts that go along with it, and we accept them without repression or censorship.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Feelings are not wrong. They're not inappropriate. We don't need to feel guilty about feelings. Feelings are not acts. Feelings shouldn't be judged as either good or bad. Feelings are emotional energy; they are not personality traits.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Yes, we have the right to be mad at a sick person. We didn't ask for the problem. Although the ideal feeling is compassion, we probably won't feel this until we deal with our anger.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Denial is the shock absorber for the soul. It is an instinctive and natural reaction to pain, loss and change. It protects us, It wards off the blows of the life until we can gather our other coping resources.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“If we aren't feeling, we're probably not examining the thinking that goes with it, and we don't know what ourselves are telling us. And if we don't deal with our feelings we don't change and we don't grow. We stay stuck,”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Love cannot exist without the dimension of justice.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Real power comes from feeling our feelings, not from ignoring them. Real strength comes, not from pretending to be strong all the time, but from acknowledging our weaknesses and vulnerabilities.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“If we absolutely can't feel good about something we're doing, then we shouldn't do it - no matter how charitable it seems. We also shouldn't do things for others that they ought to and are capable or doing for themselves. Other people aren't helpless. Neither are we.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“Rescuing or caretaking is not an act of love. The Drama Triangle is a hate triangle. It fosters and maintains self-hate, and it hinders our feelings for other people.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency

“When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they dont love you - they are saying they dont love themselves.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency