Ignore It! Quotes

“How to Manage Parenting in Public Don’t take it all too seriously. Laugh if you are having a bad day. Remember, you will probably never see these people again. Strangers aren’t raising your child. You are!”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“I don’t have to answer to others for my parenting decisions. Unless I am abusive or neglectful, I can parent how I see fit. My neighbors and parents and grandparents don’t have to approve. The grocery store clerk can roll her eyes all she wants.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“When a child gets the benefit of attention for undesirable behavior, they are prone to repeat it.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“Ignore it! isn’t easy. Actually, it is unequivocally hard. Kids are masters at getting our attention. It takes practice and inner strength to step back and not engage in the inappropriate conduct. But as we discussed in earlier chapters, the benefits are massive. You will minimize attention-seeking or annoying behavior. You will enjoy your parenting time more, and you and your children will actually feel better. So this process is more than worth the effort.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“Showing your child that you made a mistake—and you are willing to take responsibility for it—is incredibly important.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“Ignoring isn’t a punishment or a time-out. It is a method to improve behavior. That’s the goal. So when you hear the child is no longer whining or complaining or throwing toys, start to reengage (step five).”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“Tips for Ignoring Effectively → Do not make eye contact with the child. → Turn your back if you need help initiating Ignore it!. → Look busy doing something else. → Leave the room only if you can hear the child from the new location. → Do not show annoyance by nonverbal cues. → Do not make sounds that show your frustration.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“Do not make eye contact. You can use your peripheral vision to keep track of your child’s actions. Whatever you do, just make it clear that you are in no way reacting to your child.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“The trick with selective ignoring is that you are not really ignoring your child. You are simply actively not engaging. You hear and see what is happening, but you will not react. This means you cannot make angry faces or stare with enlarged eyes or make any sounds. You won’t threaten or provide consequences during this time. You will just go to a happy place in your mind and stay there for as long as it takes for the behavior to stop.”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction

“There is no benefit to disciplining what a child cannot control”
― Catherine Pearlman, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction