Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety Quotes

“Beyond creating unrealistic ideals and distorting our idea of what women actually look like, media images of women do another type of damage as well. They are one of the main sources of the sexual objectification of women, constantly conveying that women's bodies exist for others to evaluate and use at will. When we see women portrayed as objects in media imagery, it's a reminder of how often women are valued only for their bodies. The message of these images is clear: You exist for being looked at.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“Chronic body monitoring is a ridiculous price to pay for fashion, but as women, we pay it all the time in dozens of different ways. I don’t want young women to feel shame about their bodies. I don’t want them to be called sluts when they wear what fashion moguls have decided to be the in style of the season. They should be able to wear whatever they are comfortable wearing. But how comfortable are they? We should have the freedom to dress how we see fit, but we should also have the freedom to be present in the moment. If we are to monitor ourselves, I want us to be able to monitor our thoughts and feelings, our desires and goals, not our appearance.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women—and Its Impact on Health and Happiness

“Take a careful look around you the next time you’re walking in a crowded area. If you pay close attention, you’ll see women of myriad body shapes and sizes, hair colors, facial features, and ages. It’s easy to forget the actual landscape of women’s appearances, because the range of what we see in media is so narrow.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women—and Its Impact on Health and Happiness

“Idealized media images of women are far from being the only important target when it comes to our beauty-sick culture, but their sheer ubiquity means we can't underestimate their impact. We also cannot pretend that what we see in the media doesn't shape our thoughts and behaviors. It might be tempting to think that your mind is locked behind some protective wall, safe from the influence of the media onslaught, but that's not how brains work. We are all affected by these images. Their influence is insidious, and there is no magic force field to keep it out.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“If you want to compliment a girl or woman, compliment her on something she can actually control. Reinforce the idea that being hardworking, focused, kind, creative, and generous matter. None of these qualities require any particular body shape or hairstyle. Tell her you notice how much effort she puts into the things she cares about. Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her because she is interesting. Tell her that she inspires you and then explain why or how.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“Girls start thinking about their ideal body at a shockingly early age. Thirty-four percent of five-year-old girls engage in deliberate dietary restraint at least “sometimes.” Twenty-eight percent of these girls say they want their bodies to look like the women they see in movies and on television.1 To put this into context, important developmental milestones for five-year-olds include the successful use of a fork and spoon and the ability to count ten or more objects. These are girls who are just learning how to move their bodies around in the world, yet somehow they’re already worried about how their bodies look, already seeking to take up less space.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women—and Its Impact on Health and Happiness

“when your little girl asks you if she’s pretty your heart will drop like a wineglass on the hardwood floor part of you will want to say of course you are, don’t ever question it and the other part the part that is clawing at you will want to grab her by her shoulders look straight into the wells of her eyes until they echo back to you and say you do not have to be if you don’t want to it is not your job”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women—and Its Impact on Health and Happiness

“They know what they see isn't real, but they still long for it.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“I want to apologize to all the women I have called beautiful before I've called them intelligent or brave
I am sorry I made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is all you have to be proud of
when you have broken mountains with your wit
from now on i will say things like
you are resilient, or you are extraordinary
not because i don’t think you’re beautiful
but because i need you to know
you are more than that.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“Once when I was in graduate school, I got a terrible case of the flu and dropped a good deal of weight in a short amount of time. When I returned to campus, a professor said, “You look good! Did you lose weight?” When I responded that I had lost weight because I’d been seriously ill, she just shrugged and said, “Well, however it happened, looks good!” I remember that moment as such a clear example that much of what we claim to be health-based concern about other women’s weight is not at all. It’s nothing more than an ill-disguised bit of buy-in to a culture that says our worth is determined by our body size and that less is always more, no matter how we get there.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“Just because you’re not depressed on any given day doesn’t mean you’re happy.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women—and Its Impact on Health and Happiness

“Part of what drives beauty sickness in women is the feeling that beauty is some essential ingredient to bringing about happiness. How could we not feel that way, when so much of the media we consume reinforces that idea?”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“Women who feel unattractive generally don’t believe it when someone tries to
assure them that they are beautiful. If beauty sickness were that easy to cure, I
wouldn’t be writing this book. Instead of messages that reinforce the idea that
physical beauty is an essential part of womanhood, we’d be better served by
changing the conversation altogether. If we want to improve women’s physical
and mental health, we need to spend less time talking about beauty and more
time talking about issues that matter more. We don’t need to talk about beauty in
a different way. We need to talk about it less.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“I want to apologize to all the women i have called beautiful
before I’ve called them intelligent or brave
I am sorry I made it sound as though
something as simple as what you’re born with
is all you have to be proud of
when you have broken mountains with your wit
from now on I will say things like
you are resilient, or you are extraordinary
not because I don’t think you’re beautiful
but because I need you to know
you are more than that”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“We preach body confidence, but we live in a culture that doesn’t quite know what to do with a woman who actually likes the way she looks. It’s considered arrogant and even unfeminine. Think of the recent hit One Direction song that made the claim that a woman was beautiful precisely because she didn’t know she was beautiful. We need to question a culture that tells women they must be beautiful to be loved, but that they shouldn’t actually feel beautiful or we’ll find them conceited.”
― Renee Engeln, Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women

“If you can imagine a world where girls and women are less objectified and do less self-objectification, you'll see a world where everything has changed. We would do different things. We would feel more ourselves and less defined by how much others enjoy looking at us. Our money and time would be spent differently. Our bodies would be healthier. Depression and anxiety might be less common or less severe.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“We can make meaningful cultural change by taking steps in our own lives to lessen the focus on women's appearance and by encouraging others to do the same. We can make even greater change when we work to hold organizations accountable for objectifying behaviors or ad campaigns.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“Consider choosing a gift that encourages girls to be brave or curious instead of just pretty.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“But I will ask you to consider doing one particular thing to fight beauty sickness. Give other girls and women the freedom to feel they are more important than what they look like by avoiding body talk and limiting appearance-related conversations.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“This leaves too many of us hearing, we're not thin enough, not pretty enough, not good enough.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“The problem with caring about how we look moves us away from other important goals. Our beauty practices will control us instead of the other way around.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“What is it that you love? How do you want to spend your limited time and money? Where do you want to invest your limited emotional energy?”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“Instead, they tell me they want to be the kind of people who bring joy and laughter to others, who heal the sick, who fearlessly explore new technologies, who nurture those who need nurturing, who create art that inspires, who write words that move, who fight for those who cannot fight for themselves.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“But, if my fitness is being able to walk up this mountain with my dog, I am happy with that. Someday, I might not be able to do that. Or maybe I'll be slower.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“I was abusing my body, and overusing it, and overexercising, and not appreciating it for the things that it could do. I was focusing so hard on appearance.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“You can't challenge power structures if gaining a few pounds leaves you feeling worthless.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“Leaving this world in better shape than how you found it is more important than the shape of your body.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“It matters because it's hard to change the world when you're so busy trying to change your body, your skin, your hair, and your clothes. It's difficult to engage with the state of the economy, the state of politics, or the state of our education system if you're too busy worrying about the state of your muffin top, the state of your cellulite, or the state of your makeup.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“Women who practice self-compassion can more readily appreciate the diversity of human bodies and the uniqueness of their own features.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety

“I try to think about how I do yoga. I try to be grateful for this body that works. I try to think of my body as a body that works rather than a body that's beautiful.”
― Renee Engeln, Obsesja piękna. Jak kultura popularna krzywdzi dziewczynki i kobiety