How to Kill a Narcissist Quotes

“Inside all of us is a power which wants to expand and improve. This force gives us grand images of being bigger and better than we currently are. It’s not there by accident; life has an agenda. It wants to evolve.”
― J.H. Simon, How to Kill a Narcissist: Debunking the Myth of Narcissism and Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

“This deafening, blinding emotional system makes it hard to see out into the world.”
― J.H. Simon, How to Kill a Narcissist: Debunking the Myth of Narcissism and Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

“to them instead. This role reversal is the core of a narcissist-child relationship, which leads to arrested development in the child and grooms them to be more susceptible to narcissism. The child grows up believing that relationships are about playing their role and adapting to the needs of others. It’s one of the greatest lies told to some children; that dependence is a fact of life and that it never ends. This lie can continue throughout adulthood.”
― J.H. Simon, How to Kill a Narcissist: Debunking the Myth of Narcissism and Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

“Write a feeling journal: As you write, don’t just rehash what happened during the day. Focus inside on your emotions, and simultaneously decide what to write about. Notice the emotion and then give it shape. Describe what it might look like if it was an object. Journalling is a great”
― J.H. Simon, How to Kill a Narcissist: Debunking the Myth of Narcissism and Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

“The only way shame is harmful is when it is irredeemable. Not measuring up but having the chance to improve or change is life affirming, being placed in an endless loop of not being good enough is life crushing. There is great despair in feeling like you will never measure up. The hope of measuring up is how life spurs us into growth. That is life’s intention; like two rugby teams, our grandeur should push up against our shame and maintain the pressure, claiming more and more ground, until it reaches the goal - or until we accept and make peace with our limitations.”
― J.H. Simon, How to Kill a Narcissist: Debunking the Myth of Narcissism and Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse