Why I Am Not a Feminist Quotes

“It is always easier to find your sense of value by demeaning another’s value. It is easier to define yourself as ‘not that,’ rather than do an actual accounting of your own qualities and put them on the scale.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“There are advantages to being labeled the victim. You are listened to, paid attention to. Sympathy is bestowed upon you.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Radical change is scary. It’s terrifying, actually. And the feminism I support is a full-on revolution. Where women are not simply
allowed
to participate in the world as it already exists—an inherently corrupt world, designed by a patriarchy to subjugate and control and destroy all challengers—but are actively able to re-shapeit. Where women do not simply knock on the doors of churches, of governments, of capitalist marketplaces and politely ask for admittance, but create their own religious systems, governments, and economies. My feminism is not one of incremental change, revealed in the end to be The Same As Ever, But More So. It is a cleansing fire.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Take childcare for example, an issue that never gets much support beyond lip service in the feminist world, despite it being something that would benefit the majority of women. Once you reach a certain income level, it’s easier and more convenient for you to take care of your own childcare needs than to pay the taxes or contribute to a system that would help all women. If your child is in a failing school, it’s much more convenient to place your child in a private or charter school than to organize ways to improve the situation for the entire community. This also applies to expanding social welfare programs, supporting community clinics, and so on. As a woman’s ability to take care of herself expands thanks to feminist efforts, the feminist goals she’s willing to really fight for, or contribute time and money and effort to, shrink.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“It is our entire culture, the way it runs on money, rewards inhumanity, encourages disconnection and isolation, causes great inequality and suffering, that's the enemy. That is the only enemy worth fighting.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“To feel safe, you need to control what the people around you are going to say and do. This is not achieved by going after the root causes of violence. This is not even achieved by working to slowly improve social conditions. It is achieved through silence and disappearance, by moving the offending object or person out of sight. . . . [However] [d]o we want to live in a world that is safe? Do we want to push the homeless out of our cities and call that a victory over poverty? . . . Or do we want to do the very hard work of recognizing and addressing the actual causes of harm to women? Safety is a short-term goal and it is unsustainable. Eventually, the unaddressed causes will find new ways of manifesting themselves as problems. Pull up the dandelions all you want, but unless you dig up that whole goddamn root it's just going to keep showing back up.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Safety is about control. In order to feel safe, things have to be made predictable. And the only way in life to make something predictable is to control the outcome”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Women have participated in almost every fight for freedom. They were there when civilians were targeted they were there when the bombs were planted. To argue they didn't have enough power to speak up or they had been brainwashed by their male colleagues is to try to disassociate from the darkness that resides in everyone. And to disassociate from your darkness is to lose your power over it.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“This is the way dissent is handled in feminist realms: a contrary opinion or argument is actually an attack. This stems from the belief that your truth is the only truth, that your sense of trauma and oppression does not need to be examined or questioned. In”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Sometimes we as women are special in our compassion. For people to be able to survive on the margins, they often must be. They must form alliances, they must look out for one another. They must develop some characteristics and attributes because they have to create networks of solidarity and mutual care to withstand the experience of marginalization. Those characteristics are developed by facing hardship and opposition. We also have to find ways of convincing our oppressors not to hurt us, not to kill us, to bother keeping us around at all. That can make us clever. But these attributes are not innate. In fact, the idea that women are naturally more empathetic and nurturing originates with men. They used it as an excuse to keep us at home, tending to the children. They used it as an excuse to dismiss us intellectually. Don’t try to be smart, sweetheart, it’s not your strong suit. And yet we adopted this belief because it suits us to believe it about ourselves. It makes us special. What should make us feel special instead is our method of survival. If we believe these skills are born into us we will lose them once they are no longer needed.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“[F]eminism has been moving away from being about collective action and collective imagination, and toward being a lifestyle. Lifestyles do not change the world.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“We have to imagine something before we can build the infrastructure that will allow it to exist. We have failed here on both fronts: in imagination and in reality. Our great weirdos, from Emily Dickinson to Simone Weil to Coco Chanel, are seen as outliers, as not relevant to the way we think through what we want out of life. It's the same way we discuss radical feminist writers like Dworkin and Firestone. Dworkin is unhinged, Firestone is too eccentric to be taken seriously.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“When we talk about women’s safety as being the top priority, what we are talking about is separating women out from society, not creating space for them within society. We are talking about creating methods of control and manipulation. We are saying that the world needs to be reorganized not around fairness and peace, but around our particular needs and desires. If we continue to define our group’s identity by what has been done to us, we will continue to be object rather than subject. Once”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Reclamation is hard work. Finding the value in your group’s characteristics means always having to confront the darkness in those characteristics. For example, it is acceptable, and productive, to think of America as a great nation. It has many great characteristics, from the freedom it grants its citizens to the cultural contributions it has fostered and rewarded. But by unearthing America’s good qualities, you will also find its destructive qualities. The way it has interfered internationally and created death and misery for countless citizens of other nations, its history of genocide and slavery, and so on. It is possible to know America’s destructive power and still think it is a great nation. But some prefer not to look at all, so as to avoid the cognitive dissonance. It”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Our attempts at conversion are asking women to devalue what they find valuable about their existence, to take on our values of independence, success, and sexuality. And yet despite our attempts at converting women to our values, we rarely seem to pause and ask ourselves if these things actually make us happy. If this way of life is the best we can do. To question this is not to run screaming back to the kitchen, to allow men to make our decisions for us and go back to our subjugation. It is to ask if maybe there were things we discarded that we should go back and reclaim.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Bust magazine, back when it was a more outwardly feminist publication, used to ask each of their female interview subjects whether or not they identified as feminist. In 2005, the musician Björk said no, and that interview is still used in these online lists as of this year. Björk is a female artist often credited with being one of the most innovative and daring musicians of her generation, regardless of gender. She has collaborated with and supported women musicians, fashion designers, video directors. She has spoken frankly and openly in interviews about the difficulties of being a woman in a male-dominated industry. She has proven herself to be an exemplary human being and creator, and she is a tremendous role model for young aspiring musicians. If we understand that the problem feminists have with Björk has nothing to do with her actions and is only about her language and way of identifying herself, then we can recognize that this is about a feminist marketing campaign and not a philosophy. Compare”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Men are not our fucking problem. You can't overcompensate for some men's problems with women by insisting on our purity and innocence. The way we deal with other people's inhumanity is to insist on our humanity, not by insisting we are somehow a better, more honest version of human. That requires admitting to the shitty things that some women do, the violence they commit, the lies they tell to get what they want. Our job is not to convince anyone of anything. That is another form of control: telling someone what they want to hear to get them to believe what we want them to believe. Our job is to act like humans.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“You can’t overcompensate for some men’s problems with women by insisting on our purity and innocence. The way we deal with other people’s inhumanity is to insist on our humanity, not by insisting we are somehow a better, more honest version of human. That requires admitting to the shitty things that some women do, the violence they commit, the lies they tell to get what they want. Our job is not to convince anyone of anything. That is another form of control: telling someone what they want to hear to get them to believe what we want them to believe. Our job is to act like humans.”
― jessa crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“If you are surrounded by people who agree with you, you do not have to do much thinking. If you are surrounded by people who identify themselves the same way you do, you do not have to work at constructing a unique identity. If you are surrounded by people who behave the same way you do, you do not have to question your own choices.”
― Jessa Crispin, Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto

“Siempre es más fácil sentir que valemos si menospreciamos el valor de otro. Es más fácil decir lo que no somos que hacer un recuento veraz de nuestras cualidades.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“La reivindicación es una labor complicada. Buscar el valor que tienen las características de nuestro grupo implica tener que enfrentarnos a lo que hay de oscuro en esas características.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“Todo esto son formas de distanciarnos de unas cualidades humanas que buscamos negar en nosotras mismas. Nadie habla de feminidad tóxica, aunque, si atendemos a ciertas actitudes femeninas en la cultura contemporánea, está claro que existe. Pero preferimos ver la masculinidad tóxica como algo innato y cualquier problema en relación con el comportamiento de las mujeres como una creación social. Nos viene muy bien.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“El hecho no solo de que esa alianza no exista, sino de que el feminismo haya pecado flagrantemente de racista, homófobo, xenófobo y demás faltas de empatía a lo largo de toda su historia indica que el objetivo de la mayoría era el de conseguir entrar en el sistema, no el de destruirlo.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“si decides vivir de acuerdo con los valores de la compasión, la honestidad y la integridad, la gente te odiará porque les recordarás sus carencias en esos aspectos. Se está muy sola fuera del sistema, pero te necesitamos aquí.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“Para progresar en él, tendremos que copiar su conducta, adoptar sus valores. Y estos valores son el poder, el amor por el poder y la exhibición de poder. Para entonces ya seremos parte de su cultura.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“El sistema es más viejo que nosotras. Ha absorbido más veneno del que podamos aspirar a segregar jamás. No conseguiremos frenarlo siquiera un poco.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“Si luchamos por conseguir la inclusión, no mejoramos el sistema, lo único que hacemos es unirnos a las filas de los que están incluidos y sacan provecho. Nosotras mismas excluimos y explotamos. En otras palabras: nosotras, mujeres, también somos el patriarcado.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“Somos mujeres, pero tal vez sería más útil que nos considerásemos seres humanos en primer lugar.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“hoy día mi sometimiento es distinto al tuyo.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)

“con cada generación de chicos blancos que no se cría con la idea de que tiene el dominio sobre los otros, y con cada generación de «otros» que no crece con la idea de que deba someterse, estos marcadores de raza y sexo sirven cada vez menos para garantizar una determinada posición en la sociedad.”
― Jessa Crispin, Por qué no soy feminista: Un manifiesto feminista (Sin Fronteras)