The Five Love Languages of Children Quotes

“Unconditional love is a full love that accepts and affirms a child for who he is, not for what he does. No matter what he does (or does not do), the parent still loves him. Sadly, some parents display a love that is conditional; it depends on something other than their children just being. Conditional love is based on performance and is often associated with training techniques that offer gifts, rewards, and privileges to children who behave or perform in desired ways.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“It may surprise you that the primary lifetime threat to your child is his or her own anger.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Children

“You can simply remember that behavioral expressions of love can be divided into physical touch, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Positive Eye Contact Quality time should include loving eye contact. Looking in your child’s eyes with care is a powerful way to convey love from your heart to the heart of your child. Studies have shown that most parents use eye contact in primarily negative ways, either while reprimanding a child or giving very explicit instructions. If you give loving looks only when your child is pleasing you, you are falling into the trap of conditional love. That can damage your child’s personal growth. You want to give enough unconditional love to keep your child’s emotional tank full, and a key way to do this is through proper use of eye contact. Sometimes family members refuse to look at one another as a means of punishment. This is destructive to both adults and children. Kids especially interpret withdrawal of eye contact as disapproval, and this further erodes their self-esteem. Don’t let your demonstration of”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“The best way to love your children is to love their mother [father].” That’s true. The quality of your marriage greatly affects the way you relate to your children—and the way they receive love. If your marriage is healthy—both partners treating each other with kindness, respect, and integrity—you and your spouse will feel and act as partners in parenting.”
― Gary D. Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“A supportive environment and attitude will help our children learn at home. Children are more emotional than cognitive—that is, they remember feelings more readily than they do facts. This means that your children remember how they felt in a particular situation much more easily than they recall the details of the event. For instance, a child listening to a story will remember exactly how she felt long after she forgets the lesson.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“your child, like a flower, will benefit from your love. When the water of love is given, your child will bloom and bless the world with beauty. Without that love, she will become a wilted flower, begging for water.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Nothing works well if a child’s love needs are not met. Only the child who feels genuinely loved and cared for can do her best. You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it—unless you speak the love language that communicates to her your love—she will not feel loved. Filling the”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Don’t be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won’t even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“The key to quality time is found in the values and priorities you as parents determine to cherish and implement in your home.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Abuse of gift-giving can occur when a child is living with a custodial parent following a separation or divorce. The noncustodial parent is often tempted to shower a child with gifts, perhaps from the pain of separation or feelings of guilt over leaving the family. When these gifts are overly expensive, ill-chosen, and used as a comparison with what the custodial parent can provide, they are really a form of bribery, an attempt to buy the child’s love. They may also be a subconscious way of getting back at the custodial parent. Children receiving such ill-advised gifts may eventually see them for what they are, but in the meantime they are learning that at least one parent regards gifts as a substitute for genuine love. This can make children materialistic and manipulative, as they learn to manage people’s feelings and behavior by the improper use of gifts. This kind of substitution can have tragic consequences for the children’s character and integrity.”
― Gary D. Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“The most essential emotional element in a happy and healthy marriage is love.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“True unconditional love will never spoil a child because it is impossible for parents to give too much of it. If you have not loved your children in this way, you may find it difficult at first. But as you practice unconditional love, you will find it has a wonderful effect, as you become a more giving and loving person in all your relationships. No one is perfect, of course, and you cannot expect yourself to love unconditionally all of the time. But as you move toward that goal, you will find that you are more consistent in your ability to love, no matter what.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively

“You can’t train them to express their anger in mature ways simply by getting upset at them and forcing them to stop venting their anger.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“A positive message delivered in a negative manner will always reap negative results. As one child said, “My parents are yelling and screaming at me, telling me not to yell and scream. They expect me to do something they have not learned to do. It’s unfair.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“In recent years, many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, caressed, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“The tongue has the power of life and death.”1”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“During the next several years, the child’s ability to express love increases, and if he continues to receive love, he will increasingly give love.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it—she will not feel loved.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Such immaturity will manifest itself in a lack of integrity. This lack will critically affect the child’s spiritual development; the less able a child is to deal with anger well, the more antagonistic will be his attitude toward authority, including the authority of God. A child’s immature handling of anger is a primary reason the child will reject the parent’s spiritual values.”
― Gary D. Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Discipline is not a negative word. It comes from the Greek word "to train.”
― Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Children

“A true gift is not payment for services rendered; rather, it is an expression of love for the individual and is freely given by the donor.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Many children go to school ill-prepared to learn because they are not emotionally ready to learn. Children need to reach appropriate emotional levels of maturity before they are able to learn effectively at their age level. Simply sending a child to a better school or changing teachers is not the answer. We must make sure our children are emotionally ready to learn. (See chapter 9 for more on”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it—unless you speak the love language that communicates to her your love—she will not feel loved.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“A child who misbehaves has a need. To overlook the need behind the misbehavior can prevent us from doing the right thing. Asking ourselves, “What can I do to correct my child’s behavior?” often leads to thoughtless punishment. Asking, “What does my child need?” lets us proceed with confidence that we will handle the situation well.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Negativism in two-year-olds is a normal step of development, one way the child begins to separate psychologically from his mother or father.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“During infancy, a child does not distinguish between milk and tenderness, between solid food and love. Without food, a child will starve. Without love, a child will starve emotionally and can become impaired for life. A great deal of research indicates that the emotional foundation of life is laid in the first eighteen months of life, particularly in the mother/child relationship. The “food” for future emotional health is physical touch, kind words, and tender care.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“To be effective in discipline, parents must keep the child’s emotional love tank filled with love. In fact, disciplining without love is like trying to run a machine without oil. It may appear to be working for a while, but will end in disaster.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“Quality time is a parent’s gift of presence to a child. It conveys this message: “You are important. I like being with you.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children

“The words “I love you” should never be diluted with conditional statements.”
― Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages of Children