Exiting Nirvana Quotes

“So much of our pain is rooted in the responses of other people, or rather, in our perceptions of what those responses are or (even more painful) what they may be.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Dutch liberator William the Silent: “It is not necessary to hope in order to undertake; it is not necessary to succeed in order to persevere.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“He that would do good to another must do it in Minute Particulars,” wrote William Blake.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Arbeiten und lieben — to work and to love; were these not Freud’s measures of success?”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“encourages them to overlook behavior that needs overlooking. In autism, that’s important. Yet”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Friendliness is learned among friends and social behavior in society.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Jessy should control the whole process, from the determination of the stressor and the identification of the problem behavior, to the choice of the reward, taken from her treasury of Enthusiasms.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“With imagery scenes the process, from original stressor to final reward, takes place entirely in imagination —except for the relaxation. That is real.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“specific, prescriptive, repetitive”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“desensitization,”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Anna is strict!”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“steadfast in imposing penalties”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“you. To add glumness to disability is to double its crippling power. Jessy’s cheeriness still smooths her way.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Anna and Diana were the bravest and the toughest and the most successful.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Still, smiles followed tears; they kept working and Jessy kept trying, and together they moved forward.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Why even ask the question? Growth is “natural,” a child “develops,” its potentialities “unfold.” The words themselves, in their root meanings, proclaim inevitability.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Why should she try to do these things? What motivates a child to grow?”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“The program had two elements: points for desirable behaviors (leading, if the number agreed on was reached, to a Popsicle at the end of the day), and a written contract.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Ivar Lovaas speak at autism conventions.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Intellectual achievement is useless without social development.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“apropos”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“She had achieved what might be called a fourth-grade competence, and we didn’t want her to lose it, as she certainly would if it wasn’t exercised.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“Who can say how heredity and environment and disability come together?”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“application of force. How much else have I not registered? Her prosody”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“leaves out verbs and articles and pronouns and prepositions, in what those who know autism call “telegraphic speech.”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“cannot recognize attitudes and beliefs,”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“assuage”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“You can say ‘What are you looking for’ and ‘Who are you looking for.’ Can you say ‘Where are you looking for’?”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“aphasia,”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism

“armature”
― Clara Claiborne Park, Exiting Nirvana: A Daughter's Life with Autism