Anger Management Workbook for Men Quotes

“trust your own judgment and risk being less than perfect, in order to solve actual problems rather than constantly trying to prevent disasters that may never even occur.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“every time you take a step away from your comfort zone, you take a step toward your potential, which has no limits. But this effort entails dealing with fear on some level. This is where courage comes in.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Therapist: Do you see yourself as a good husband? You have to feel worthy of your wife’s love before you can seek it from her.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“You have to feel worthy of your wife’s love before you can seek it from her.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“As we know, a lot of men can’t make choices because they don’t know what pleases them. They’ve often been so busy living up to others’ standards that they haven’t had the confidence to develop standards of their own.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“And if the other person’s response is to cooperate with your wishes, that response deserves to be validated. This last point is important to keep in mind, since men dealing with anger often pay close attention to everything they don’t like, but overlook or take for granted what’s going well.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT It’s risky to ask other people for what you want since you never really know how they’re going to respond. But adults can choose to take appropriate risks. That’s what adults to do.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“you can choose to stop trying to prevent future catastrophes and start taking life as it comes.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Therapist: It’s not a matter of right or wrong. It’s about accepting them and everyone else as imperfect. And if their imperfections make you angry, you can choose to say, “It makes me angry when you do that.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Therapist: The common denominator of your anger at your wife and kids is that they make mistakes.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“if you believe that you have a responsibility to uphold the standards of people you’re trying to please, then you’ll see yourself as unworthy of respect until you’ve achieved some unobtainable degree of perfection.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“If you don’t choose your own happiness, who will? Unfortunately, lots of men are not used to doing just that. They don’t trust their own judgment, and so they feel obligated to depend on the supposedly superior judgment of others. But making deliberate choices on your own behalf is an act of control.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“unfairness feels like such a primal violation that it can lead to relatively grave consequences.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“what these men believe to be a selfless, positive focus on others’ welfare turns out to be a self-focused, negative enterprise aimed at keeping their own imperfections under wraps and avoiding punishment for what is invariably a misconceived sense of guilt.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“shouldering a “have to” burden.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“But others aren’t always interested in having their problems solved, or being cheered up or calmed down, or otherwise opening their lives to these excessively responsible men’s interventions.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“some men take it a step further and also assume responsibility for others’ happiness and welfare.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“TO LIVE A healthy and happy life, you have to deal with your anger.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Thanks for calling that to my attention.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“But choosing not to defend yourself or return someone’s antagonism doesn’t mean passively allowing yourself to be a doormat. Instead, you can respond by making a statement that’s true but neutral:”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“It certainly seems like I’m hard to get along with.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Always remind yourself that antagonists are seeking attention and trying in their own dysfunctional way to heal their own pain.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“When you separate other people from their behavior, you’re practicing detachment.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“as an adult, you can choose to express your anger by simply and clearly saying how you’re feeling rather than arguing, shouting, or defending yourself. You can respond from a place of self-respect instead of reacting from a place of rage and defensiveness.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“The antidote to feeling defensive is to understand that you’re in control of your choices in the present.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“it’s entirely appropriate to make yourself your first priority in conditions of combat.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“FOCUS ON FEELINGS, NOT FACTS”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“AVOID ANTAGONISM”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“Jumping right into action.”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions

“ineffective strategies that you may be using when a disagreement arises between you and someone else:”
― Aaron Karmin, Anger Management Workbook for Men: Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions