Queens of Geek Quotes

“That's what we do. We walk a tightrope every day. Getting out the door is a tightrope. Going grocery shopping is a tightrope. Socializing is a tightrope. Things that most people consider to be normal, daily parts of life are the very things we fear and struggle with the most, and yet here we are, moving forward anyway. That's not weak.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“To the girl who hid in the shadows and tried to body-shame me, I’m sorry you thought that was a good use of your time and energy. I hope you find happiness within yourself. You deserve that. We all do.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Besides, there's no one way to be a girl, Tay. You don't need to fit yourself into what society tells us a girl should be. Girls can be whoever they want. Whether that's an ass-kicking, sarcastic, crime-solving FBI Agent or a funny, gorgeous, witty beauty queen--or both at the same time." She swings an arm around me and pulls me in.

"Are you happy the way you are? Are you comfortable? Do you feel like yourself?"

The corner of my mouth lifts into a half smile. "Yes. Yes. And yes."

"Then that's all that matters. Fuck everything else.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I’m forever observing, trying to learn how to be an adult human being by watching others, and I’m constantly in awe of how easy some people make it look.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“You can't pick and chose whose equality you support. That's not equality.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“My bottom lip starts to quiver, but I keep going. “I fight every day, and too many times it’s just not enough and the fear wins. I’m so fucking weak and everything is so fucking intense and sometimes I really hate it.” I gasp, covering my mouth with my hands as the tears pour out of me. I didn’t mean to say all that. I feel exposed. Tears fill her eyes, too. “Can I hug you?” I nod, unable to speak. She walks around the table and hugs me.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Just because I made it here doesn't mean it was easy. And just because I don't seem overwhelmed doesn't mean I'm not”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Haven't you heard? Nerds are cool now.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“In one brief conversation, she made me see that there’s nothing wrong with me.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Sometimes I see people at the supermarket or somewhere else, smiling and cheerfully making small talk with strangers and not looking tense or uncomfortable at all, and i just want to go up and ask them how they do it. How did they manage to do everything they need to do and go out in the world and be human without feeling the weight of it all questioning them into oblivion”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“It’s not my job to convince others of who I am. My only job is to BE who I am. All I can do is find what makes me happy, and live it.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“That nervousness that makes your palms sweat and your heart race before you get up and make a speech in front of an audience? That's what I feel in a normal conversation at the dinner table. Or just thinking about having a conversation at the dinner table.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Just because I made it here doesn't mean it was easy. And just because I don't seem overwhelmed doesn't mean I'm not”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Me. The geek girl from the suburbs of Melbourne. The youngest daughter of Chinese immigrants. The only openly bi kid at school. The drama freak who makes vlogs in her bedroom.
I'm the hero.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Anxiety isn’t an attack that explodes out of me; it’s not a volcano that lies dormant until it’s triggered by an earth-shattering event. It’s a constant companion. Like a blowfly that gets into the house in the middle of summer, flying around and around. You can hear it buzzing, but you can’t see it, can’t capture it, can’t let it out. My anxiety is invisible to others, but often it’s the focal point of my mind. Everything that happens on a day-to-day basis is filtered through a lens colored by anxiety. That nervousness that makes your palms sweat and your heart race before you get up and make a speech in front of an audience? That’s what I feel in a normal conversation at a dinner table. Or just thinking about having a conversation at a dinner table. The fear that other people feel on rare occasions, reserved only for when they jump out of a plane or hear a strange noise in the middle of the night—that’s my normal. That’s what I feel when the phone rings. When someone knocks on my door. When I go outside. When I’m alone. When I’m in line at a store. Everything feels like I’m on a stage, spotlight on me, all eyes on me, watching, judging. Like I’m one second away from total disaster. It’s invisible, it’s irrational, it’s never-ending. I could be standing there, smiling and chatting like everything is totally fine, while secretly wanting to scream and cry and run away. No one would ever know. In my mind, no one can hear me scream. I hide it because I know it’s not understood or acceptable—because I’m not understood or acceptable.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I was so nervous about the airport, going through security and doing all that gives me some serious fucking anxiety. ... Everyone seemed so chill.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“So,” I say, tapping my feet on the floor while I sit. I take in a deep breath. “I think I’m gonna enter the SupaFan Contest.” His head snaps up. “Huh?” “I want to enter the contest.” He sits up straight. “You do?” “Yes.” He cocks his head to the side. “What made you change your mind?” I shift awkwardly in my seat, already feeling nervous about my decision. “Talking to Josie.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Love is intense. You break down all your walls to let someone in. But if they’re not good for you, they can tear you up from the inside. And you think what you have together is love, so you let them.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Reese, I’m bisexual. Do you believe in me?” He sat up and stared at her like he was suddenly seeing a whole different person. “You? But you’re with me.” “So? I’m still bi.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“The fear that other people in very scary occasions, reserved only for when they jump out of a plane or hear a strange noise in the middle of the night - that's my normal. ... It's invisible, it's irrational, it's never-ending”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Anxiety isn’t an attack that explodes out of me; it’s not a volcano that lies dormant until it’s triggered by an earth-shattering event. It’s a constant companion.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Sometimes I see people at the supermarket or somewhere else mundane, smiling and cheerfully making small talk with strangers and not looking tense or uncomfortable at all, and I just want to go up and ask them how they do it. How do they manage to do everything they need to do and go out in the world and be human without feeling the weight of it all crushing them into oblivion?”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“You can’t pick and choose whose equality you support. That’s not equality.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I didn't see how much of my self-worth had been tied into that relationship until it was over. The hardest part wasn't leaving her behind; it was feeling like I'd left pieces of myself behind. The only pieces I liked.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“It's just that I know exactly how that conversation would have gone," I say. "I would've told her I'm too afraid to enter. She would've asked what I'm afraid of. I would've had to bring up the whole social anxiety thing, and she would've either encouraged me to enter anyway, completely disregarding my terror, or she would've nodded and excused herself”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I started to ask myself if maybe it was just... me. It hit me then that no one who knows and loves Julia will ever know that she once knew and loved me.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“CB: What sets your heart pumping?
JW: Horror movies. Or watching the news, which is kinda the same thing.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“There's nothing more disheartening than thinking you know someone—on a deep, soulful level—only to find out they're someone else entirely. I started questioning everything. I didn't know if the Reese I knew was real, or if the Reese I saw at parties and in the press was real. To make things worse, every time I brought it up with him, he would say it was all in my head. He had me questioning my own sanity. But once I had learned he had cheated on me, I knew it wasn't my imagination.

I realized he was too caught up in society's game of fitting in, and that's a game I've never been willing to play. No one wins.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“Love is intense. You break down all your walls to let someone in. But if they're not good for you, they can tear you up from the inside. And you think what you have together is love, so you let them.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek

“I let out a long exhale. "It's not like it's the first time I've been called a bitch." I've lost count of all the times people have called me a bitch or a snob, misinterpreting my shyness or lack of eye contact as disrespect or rudeness.”
― Jen Wilde, Queens of Geek