Self-Reg Quotes

“fact, research now shows that the more we focus on self-control and the harder we push for it, the harder self-control and positive behavioral change can become.”
― Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

“Self-Reg starts by reframing a child’s behavior and, for that matter, our own. It means seeing the meaning of the child’s behavior, maybe for the first time.”
― Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

“Self-Reg is about becoming aware of and enhancing the internal processes of arousal regulation, not behavior management, about the critical role that an adult plays as an “external regulator” of a child’s arousal states until such time as the child is able to manage this on his or her own.”
― Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

“that it is only by being regulated that a child develops the ability to self-regulate.”
― Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

“The problem is that if the amygdala sounds the alarm too often, the hypothalamus is constantly pressing on the gas pedal, then the brakes, and the brake pads wear out: The recovery system loses its resilience.”
― Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life