Husband, Liar, Sociopath Quotes

“Why are you volunteering at the local arts council? You’ll never be appreciated.” A metaphor broke into my conscious mind. Life with Paul was like an ongoing game of “Whack-A-Mole.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“ironically, what felt worse—total withdrawal of any human connection with him. Inside, I was dying. On the outside, life went on. There were meals to make, homework to help with, kids to get to practice, and other things to do. To keep our overly rambunctious dog, Mr.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“As a testament to how far I had fallen and how much I had become Paul’s emotional captive, I felt that trying to regain my sense of self, my life, and my independence would be a profound betrayal of Paul, for which I would be punished through his anger, annoyance, contempt”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“Whether I was alone or on the phone with a friend or my mother, tears flowed daily. I felt worthless, entombed in quiet despair. Hardly anyone would argue that, with Daniel twelve and Jessica going on fifteen, parenting would be a breeze. Yet, my parenting unraveled far more than can be attributed to dealing with two young teenagers or preteens. I grew increasingly short-tempered with Daniel and Jessica and nagged them constantly.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“The Betrayal Bond—Breaking Free of Exploitive”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“Once sociopaths have you hooked, they invest as little as possible in maintaining the pretense of normalcy, and their true, uncaring, selfish selves become more apparent.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“Hi, Paul, it’s great you’re home. I thought you wouldn’t be home ‘til after midnight.” “We got done early,” Paul said, his face devoid of any “nice to see you” smile. “I was really hoping you’d be here … the one night I’m back before midnight …”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“befuddling, unsatisfying, and chronically one-sided “resolutions” to conflicts may be a strong indicator you are dealing with a sociopath. Your written record will help establish that fact long after your memory of past events begins to fade or is distorted beyond recognition through your sociopathic partner’s manipulations.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“It is important to understand if a lack of empathy, a lack of a conscience, and a need to control are the root cause of any conflict. These are deal breakers. They are perilous and cannot be fixed. If you find yourself in such a situation, you must escape.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“exploitation.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“His remark demonstrated that Paul viewed me as a possession to be controlled. This is not normal, and it is certainly not healthy. This is how sociopaths view those they are grooming for future”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“The problem is that once a person learns that it is futile to try, this behavior is not easily unlearned. As a result, the person does not attempt to exert effort to advance his or her interests in future situations, even when the situation is different and new efforts are likely to yield positive results. Being in an environment for an extended time in which the connection between effort and results is severed can change a person, leaving him or her chronically depressed. Is it any”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“having someone you trust continually contradict your perceptions and undermine your decisions is intellectually and emotionally corrosive.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

“Sociopaths enjoy being puppeteers. They manipulate for the rush of feeling in control and weakening others so they can manipulate and dominate them even more in the future.”
― O.N. Ward, Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned