Who’s That Girl? Quotes

“He's an irrelevant person. Learn to spot irrelevant people. Don't expect someone who doesn't know who they are to care who you are.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“You won't find someone who treats you as you should be treated until you start to believe you are worth the ones you want, the ones who aren't asking you to do any work. Find the man who appreciates you at your best, not one who confirms your worst suspicions about yourself.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“All those wasted years spent trying to get inconsequential people to like her. She never asked herself why she should like them.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“The way I see it,’ Edie said, holding both their hands, as they looked at the water rushing over the rocks, ‘you get people who are important to you, for as long as you get them. You never know how long it will be. You have to accept it and make use of the time you have.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“It was startling and humbling to realise how much time you could spend with people to whom you meant so little and vice versa”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“I think sometimes, shit things in life can’t be learned from, they just “are”. You have to live around them and with them. No one admits it, because it doesn’t sound inspiring if you put it over a picture of a sunset.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“You need people to like you. Stop caring so much. It doesn’t matter.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“And the whole constant mantra about how 'long-term relationships are hard work' and 'everything has its ups and downs' and 'you're going to be annoyed by their toenails' and 'stick with it' and 'the grass only looks greener' and so on. It's actually very hard to tell when you should split up with someone. All I knew was I was waking up every morning thinking this can't be it, until death. When your relationship is making you feel life's too long, something's gone awry.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“Giving no fucks was a superpower.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Everyone's interesting," Elliot said. "Acting 101." - "They're definitely not. Advertising 202.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“I read an analogy of depression,’ Meg said, as they steadied, wiping under her eyes with a floppy cuff. ‘About how killing yourself is like jumping out of a tall building when it’s on fire. You don’t want to jump out, but bit by bit, it becomes impossible not to because you’re so scared and in so much pain. No one thinks anyone jumping out of a building on fire wants to do it.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“No one was the villain of their own story in their own mind,”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Don’t waste the young and beautiful years being anxious, darling. There’s plenty of old and ugly ones coming.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“You couldn’t put a burden down if you didn’t admit to yourself you were carrying it”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“At least when I don’t like myself, I still know who I am. You have a face for every occasion. When you’re on your own, you must disappear. Who are you, when no one’s looking?”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“You have to let it go, or you’ll go mad. Trust me on this. Keep these words in your head: Those who know me better, know better.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“One of the hardest things to explain to a child is why adulthood involved doing so many things you knew you definitely didn’t want to do.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“It’s actually very hard to tell when you should split up with someone. All I knew was I was waking up every morning thinking this can’t be it, until death. When your relationship is making you feel life’s too long, something’s gone awry.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Saudade,’ Edie said. ‘What?’ Elliot half-shouted over the din, not unreasonably. ‘A Portuguese word that has no direct translation, it means “a profound longing for something or someone that is absent and might never return”.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“El fracaso es huérfano y el éxito tiene montones de padres.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“It was obvious Elliot wasn't keen on her, in that way. She'd mistaken Fraser's meaning, and cringed slightly. 'Besotted'—you could besot in a completely sexless way, right? She'd once been besotted with her gerbils.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“All these wasted years spent trying to get inconsequential people to like her. She never asked herself why she should like them.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Society as we know it is fucked,’ Hannah said, noisily squirting the plastic ketchup bottle on to her chips. ‘Everyone pretends their life is great online. It’s lies by omission. It’s just one big lie by omission. It makes people feel constantly inadequate and anxious and envious. All our lives are a managed mess but look online and you get advertising.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Edie and he hugged hello. ‘How are you?’ she said. ‘Fucking awful. You?’ ‘Shite,’ Edie laughed. ‘Same here, but we have booze,’ Hannah said.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“only beat yourself up about the harm you did that you meant to do. That’s on you. The harm you did by accident, feel bad but let it go, ultimately it’s not on you.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Lucie was someone you wouldn’t choose as your best friend unless there’d been a global pandemic extinction event,”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“once defined a true friend as ‘someone you’d let see you in a vomit-stained dressing gown’,”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Don’t expect someone who doesn’t know who they are to care who you are.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who's That Girl?

“Tal y como yo lo veo, tienes a la gente que es importante para ti durante un período determinado. Nunca sabes cuánto será. Debes aceptarlo y usar el tiempo que se te da. No [la tuvimos] durante mucho tiempo, pero eso no significa que no marcara una inmensa diferencia para nosotros. La queríamos y nos quería.
Nunca la olvidaremos. Todavía la queremos.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?

“La gente no aprecia el manto de invisibilidad del anonimato hasta que se lo desgarran.”
― Mhairi McFarlane, Who’s That Girl?