It's Not What You Think Quotes

“Shalom is the Hebrew word for “peace.” For rhythm. For everything lining up exactly how it was meant to line up. Shalom is happening in those moments when you are at the dinner table for hours with good friends, good food, and good wine. Shalom is when you hear or see something and can’t quite explain it, but you know it’s calling and stirring something deep inside of you. Shalom is a sunset, that sense of exhaustion yet satisfaction from a hard day’s work, creating art that is bigger than itself. Shalom is enemies being reconciled by love. Shalom is when you are dancing to the rhythm of God’s voice.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“Echad is first mentioned in the garden. It says a man and a woman, when they join together, become echad, or “one.” But that word echad is more explosive with meaning than just one flesh. It can literally mean to fuse together at the deepest part of our beings. Two becoming one, completely glued together, completely meshing. I still remember one of the hardest conversations I have had with Alyssa. We were just starting to date again, and were sitting in the car after a wonderful date night. We knew marriage was a possibility on the horizon, and I felt like I finally had to share things in my past that would affect her if we got married. I was incredibly nervous, as well as terrified of rejection or hurt, but I realized that if intimacy were to grow, I had to get vulnerable. For marriage to be what it truly is—two people becoming one in mind, body, soul, and spirit—I had to be honest. I remember sharing with her many things, but specifically some details of my sexual past. My teenage years were littered with me almost worshiping sexual fulfillment in pornography, partying, and girls. And I say worship, because that was where I got my worth, value, and purpose as well as what I most lived for (which is what the definition of worship is). I had to apologize and ask forgiveness from Alyssa for things I had done before I even knew her because of echad—one form of complete and utter intimacy. Because of that beauty, mystery, and power, God created it to function best in a man and a woman coming together for life and constantly echading or fusing together. I needed forgiveness because I had betrayed echad. I had betrayed oneness. I had betrayed intimacy. And if I wasn’t honest about it, it’d be a little part of my life or heart that Alyssa didn’t know—thus blocking echad. But something really peculiar happened in that moment. With the grace and forgiveness of Jesus, Alyssa forgave me. She heard all that I was and am, and still wanted to walk this journey with me. I still remember the tenderness in her voice as she spoke truth and forgiveness over me. In that moment I was exposed and known, and yet because of Alyssa’s grace, I was at the same time loved. And that is where intimacy is found—to be fully loved and to be fully known. To be fully loved, but not fully known will always allow us to buy the lie that “if they only knew the real me, they wouldn’t want me anymore.” And to be fully known but not fully loved feels sharp, painful, at a level of rejection that hurts so bad. But to be fully known and at the same time fully loved, now that is intimacy. I don’t want to give the wrong impression. Intimacy is certainly romantic in some aspects, but at its deepest level, it’s much more than that. It can be experienced with friends and family, not just spouses and loved ones.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“When I think of whisper, I think of tenderness, gentleness, beauty. And that was God's voice. The hard part with whispers, though, is we have to be listening for them. They are just loud enough that only the people listening will hear and those who are distracted won't.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“I think thanksgiving is the secret to a healthy Christian life.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“Are you a Genesis 1 Christian or a Genesis 3 Christian? Do you start your story with shalom or with sin? Shalom is the Hebrew word for “peace.” For rhythm. For everything lining up exactly how it was meant to line up. Shalom is happening in those moments when you are at the dinner table for hours with good friends, good food, and good wine. Shalom is when you hear or see something and can’t quite explain it, but you know it’s calling and stirring something deep inside of you. Shalom is a sunset, that sense of exhaustion yet satisfaction from a hard day’s work, creating art that is bigger than itself. Shalom is enemies being reconciled by love.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“we know that sometimes the best place to see the stars in all their glory is the wilderness.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“God is faithful.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“And so the beautiful truth is that since we were created by a community, we were created for community. If we are made in God’s image and God is a community, then that means we are rejecting our humanness when we live isolated and alone. That’s fundamental to what it means to be human. That is intimacy.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is about So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“This is why the Bible doesn’t end how it starts. It starts in a garden but ends in a city. It starts with Law, but ends with intimacy. It starts with God in a tent, but ends with God in us.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“God’s voice is always calling us out of hiding—that’s how you know it’s God’s voice.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“Image-bearers always go in or on a temple. And they can't move. They are metal, wood, stone, etc. But in Genesis the images are flesh. A divine mix of spirit, flesh, love, and humanness. And Adam and Eve are placed in the garden, which is God saying loud and clear that from the beginning he wants to flood the earth with his presence. The whole world is his temple.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“God is putting his world back together, and to do that he's using the very people who broke it.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“We don't have a hard time realizing how messed up we are messed up we are. I know I'm broken. I know I'm deeply flawed. I know I'm not good enough. You don't need to shout those things out at me from the corner of the street with your sandwich board--I already know them. But you tell me I have inherent worth and value based on who made me, not what I do and I think, Really? Are you sure? But...
That's subversive. In a culture that continually strips humans of dignity (homelessness, exploitation of the poor, objectifying women, abortion, euthanasia, and so forth), we have to return to shalom. We have to return to that special declaration God shouted over humans thousands of years ago in that wonderful garden--"So God created man in his own image.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“While it is true after Genesis 3 we are sinners, we are still made in the image of God, no matter how broken that image is. Beauty is more primal than the curse; and we were children before we were runaways.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“God is constant. Always forgiving. Always loving. Never changing.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“I always imagined heaven being a place far, far away with winged babies playing harps and floating on the clouds. Now honestly, that doesn’t sound like a place where I want to be for eternity. It sounds terrible and boring. In fact, if I ever saw a naked chubby baby with wings, I’d probably run as fast as I could the other way; I”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“Relationships are not efficient; they are messy, time-consuming, and unpredictable.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die

“all God requires is that we “walk humbly” with him.”
― Jefferson Bethke, It's Not What You Think: Why Christianity Is About So Much More Than Going to Heaven When You Die