Shrinking Violets Quotes

“Well into his thirties he dreamed of having to go to school as a grown-up, opening his desk, and rummaging inside to hide his face, “suffering over again with increased intensity the shyness and sense of disgrace of my boyhood.” And yet Wallace came to be grateful for what he called his “constitutional shyness,” which he felt had given him long periods of solitary study and a hesitancy over words that led him to avoid the verbosity that marred so many scholarly works.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: The Secret Life of Shyness

“هیچ‌کس شما رو به خاطر این که خجالتی به نظر نمی‌رسید تشویق نمی‌کنه، احتمالاً به خاطر این که اونا بیشتر نگران این هستند که خودشون هم همین‌طور دیده شوند.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: A Field Guide to Shyness

“هیچ‌کس شما رو به خاطر این که خجالتی به نظر نمی‌رسید تشویق نمی‌کنه، احتمالاً به خاطر این که اونا بیشتر نگران این هستند که خودشون هم اینجوری دیده شوند.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: A Field Guide to Shyness

“من تصمیم گرفتم که بپذیرم، به قول توسعه‌دهنده‌های نرم‌افزار، که خجالتی بودن یه ویژگیه نه یه باگ.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: A Field Guide to Shyness

“ناراحتی ناشی از خجالتی‌بودن یه مسئله واقعیه و کمک به دیگران برای رفع این ناراحتی یه هدف شرافتمندانه است. ولی مصرف دارو برای اضطراب اجتماعی - برای این احساس که احمق، کسالت آور یا دوست نداشتنی هستیم - مثل فریاد زدن در باد یا جلوی باران ایستادن می‌مونه. مثل این می‌مونه که بخواهید برای زنده‌بودن درمانی پیدا کنید.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: A Field Guide to Shyness

“Jansson’s lesson is not that shy people should come out of their shells; it is that they should learn to become non-neurotic introverts. For Moomins may sulk and skulk fleetingly, but most of the time they are neither needy nor neurotic. Their response to a problem is to think deeply and then make something – a hut, a painting, a poem, a boat carved out of bark – as a way of whittling meaning out of a terrifying world.”
― Joe Moran, Shrinking Violets: The Secret Life of Shyness