Introverts in Love Quotes

“Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow. Extroverts are fireworks, introverts are a fire in the hearth.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“Historically, psychologists have looked at introversion as the absence of extroversion. They measure extroversion, and if you are low in it, then you are considered an introvert. This perpetuates the perception of introversion as negative space, and introverted activities as not really doing anything. We need to train ourselves, and others, out of this idea. We need to start seeing doing nothing (or reading, or working alone on projects, or whatever it is we do to recharge) as activities that are as valid as any social event.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“Being lucky in love might be less a matter of luck and more a matter of paying attention.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“Hiding your introversion is a bad idea because introversion itself is not a problem. It only causes problems if different needs affect factored into a burgeoning relationship and handled with respect and understanding. No doubt introversion-related issues will come up over time in a long-term relationship--healthy relationships are fluid and ever changing--but if you start out being honest with yourself and the other person, you will have built a foundation for later adaptation, compromise, and mutual comfort and happinesses.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“The introvert's dilemma is that we might not get a lot of invitations for the kind of socializing we like best--small, mellow gatherings. In other words, the kind of socializing other introverts like to do. Because, let's face it: We're introverts. We're all at home waiting to be invited to do introvert things. Which means, of course, that none of us are getting the invitations we crave. It's an introvert standoff.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“The reality is that you are not competing with extroverts for attention. Extroverts and introverts are apples and oranges. Extroverts sparkle, introverts glow. Extroverts are fireworks, introverts are a fire in the hearth. Extroverts attract people who like razzle-dazzle, introverts attract people who want to bask in your warmth.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“Many ultra-sensitive introverts have little mood radars constantly circulating, looking for cues and clues to others’ state of mind. When we pick something up, it goes into our brains to be cranked around and around and around as we try to extract whatever relevant meaning it might hold for us and the state of our relationship. As well as being absolutely exhausting, this can be counterproductive. Even the most sensitive people tend to be pretty bad at mind reading (as in, really terrible at mind reading—as in, can’t mind read at all, it’s impossible, forget about it), and all that thinking and guessing and ruminating—because that’s what it is—doesn’t do a relationship any good.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“If you are rejected by someone who doesn’t really know you, then you are not being rejected for who you are. You are only being rejected for who that person thinks you are.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After

“Ah, yes, the mix tape. The mating call of the introvert.”
― Sophia Dembling, Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After