Hospice Whispers Quotes

“The bottom line is that sometimes the most responsible, loving, efficient, and sane thing we can do is let another person have their process. We can set boundaries if their process is making us insane, and we do not have to agree to enable behavior with which we do not agree. Finally, we can accept the ultimate boundary that their life is their own, and they deserve to find their way, knowing that when we intervene, sometimes we stand in the way of exactly the path that will be of greatest value to them. We can disengage to stay sane, trust them to find their way, and walk with them with a lot less anxiety, guilt, and frustration, and just enjoy being their daughter, son, loved one, rather than trying to play a role that isn’t ours to play.”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life

“The saying in the industry is often that a disease process may choose the time of someone’s death, but the patient chooses their moment.”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life

“grief is a journey for which there is no shortcut. The only way out is through.”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life

“This is a marathon, not a sprint,” we often remind families. “You’re allowed to keep some reserves in your tank so you don’t burnout before this race is over.”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life

“research shows that music is often one of the last pieces of our memory to leave us, even when our brains are challenged by trauma or disease. I”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life

“sometimes, we just need someone to remind us that we can just be and that we don’t have to “fix” it. We don’t need to, we don’t have to, and we don’t get to do anything else.”
― Carla Cheatham, Hospice Whispers: Stories of Life