Intimacy and Solitude Quotes

“A split between the way a person feels on the inside and the way they appear on the outside is usually maintained at considerable cost, with increasing feelings of meaninglessness and decreasing feelings of choice. Such a pattern of splitting is likely to be set in place when there has been a trauma which the child is not encouraged to recover from or speak about so that what the child is feeling on the inside is given no legitimacy of ‘mattering’ on the outside. Inevitably, then, inner and outer become unbearably divided.”
― Stephanie Dowrick, Intimacy and Solitude: How to give love and receive it