Charisma on Command Quotes

“In terms of inspiring people, your energy is more essential than your message.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“That’s what high energy does.  It amplifies everything.  Speak louder, gesticulate more, feel more alive than your audience.  That will amplify your message.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Whoever controls the silence has the power.  When you can sit with it comfortably, people will go out of their way to agree, offer more information, or make small talk. Uncharismatic people fill that silence with backpedaling.  They make a request of someone and when they don’t get an immediate response, they say “But you don’t have to if you don’t want to.”  They pounce on the end of every sentence like they are in a race to finish their thought. Allow there to be silence after your requests.  Allow there to be silence after your sentences.  And most powerfully, allow there to be silence in…. The middle of your thoughts (see what I did there?)  It creates massive anticipation and draws people into your story.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Remember, Steve Jobs didn’t promise that Apple’s next product would change the world.  Jobs said that he would change the world.  It didn’t matter if the vehicle was the Lisa, The Mac, or even Pixar Studios.  Any individual endeavor might fail, but he was 100% certain he would eventually achieve his goals.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Being polite at the expense of authenticity serves no one.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“The charismatic person is attractive because he is whole.  If you want to demonstrate charismatic qualities, don’t deny any aspect of yourself.  Don’t shy from the truth.  Live with integrity.  Do what amuses you.  Say what you think.  Share what you feel.  Don’t wait for anyone’s permission.  Don’t seek anyone’s validation.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“If you ever think or say anything nice about someone, make sure they know.  People can’t read your mind.  Make a call, send a text, leave a comment –”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“It might seem counterintuitive, but bringing conflicts to light is the charismatic thing to do.  Have the courage to call out when there is tension beneath the surface of an interaction. Let people know when they transgress boundaries, even when you want their favor.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Be the first to bring fun into a situation and you’re the charismatic leader.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charismatic Conviction 4: Charisma doesn’t convince”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“What you are and how you present yourself BOTH matter.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Coach Wooden nailed it: “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“These microgestures are often called subcommunications.  They are transmitted and received subconsciously.  Which is why even though we may lie with our words, we shout the truth with our bodies.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charisma = Conviction + Energy + Presentation”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Crack a joke when you meet someone new.  Mess around a bit.  That might mean you dance like a fool before anyone is on the dance floor.  Or maybe you play around with people everyone else treats like automatons, like waiters, doormen, and cashiers.  Be the first to bring fun into a situation and you’re the charismatic leader.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Find a purpose that fires you up.  Make it bigger than you.  Share it.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Instead, find the angle that supports other people.  Make the subtext of your jokes point to positive traits (“Does it hurt having a brain so big?” is nicer than “God you’re a moron.”)  Whether the tone is serious or goofy, always frame others in the best light possible.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Keep your messages uplifting and positive and people will be drawn to you.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charismatic people tend to speak more loudly.  They modulate their voices. They stand up straight.  They gesticulate.  Think of MLK on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“charismatic people are more resilient and do know how to stay positive when most people would panic.  But that positivity is grounded in reality.  It’s how they really feel.  On those occasions where the charismatic person is genuinely hurt, nervous, or pissed, they reveal those feelings.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“A shoulder clap is more appropriate in a business setting.  But the underlying principle holds: touch more than the majority of people would in the same context.  It demonstrates comfort, leadership, and conviction in your communication skills.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“And the riskiest, but highest reward situations: be the first to bring up the subjects of money, relationships or sex.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“You build a conviction that you have impeccable integrity by living with impeccable integrity.  You follow through on the things you say you are going to do.  You only make commitments you will keep.  You represent yourself honestly to everyone. You cut out lying.  Even the little white lies.  Even the lies of omission.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charismatic Conviction 2: I care more about my character than the opinions of others.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Build conviction in everything you do and people will respect, support, and believe in you.  Conviction is mind control.  Conviction is magic.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“If you believe you are the best, she will too.  She’ll follow every move perfectly.  If you doubt yourself and wonder if she’s a better dancer than you, she’ll know it.  And she’ll hesitate to follow you.  You’ll step all over her.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“You need to connect with people.  You need people to like you.  And you need to like them back.  If you don’t, it doesn’t matter how many boxes you check.  You’re going to come up short in success, happiness, and fulfillment.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charisma is broadcast in the same way as John’s good mood.  It’s a myriad of tiny shifts in word choice, body language, tonality, eye contact, and facial movement.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“I’d gotten friendly enough to talk to them the crazy things I’d done the weekend before. They were good humans as well as businessmen and because I connected with them on that level, I got top bucket bonuses.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet

“Charisma. It is the quality that makes us like someone.  That makes us want them to like us back.  It makes us want to follow them.  To trust them implicitly.  It is that feeling when someone walks into a room and you can’t take your eyes off them.  It is the ”X-factor.”
― Charlie Houpert, Charisma on Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet