Four Ways to Click Quotes

“When you’re judging, you’re not listening. And if you’re not listening, you’re missing out on one of the best ways to stimulate your smart vagus pathway and turn down the volume of your stress-response system. But if you’re not judging, you can listen more and feel calmer, and this, in turn, will make interacting with others much easier and judging others less necessary.”
― Amy Banks, Four Ways to Click: Rewire Your Brain for Stronger, More Rewarding Relationships

“(For example, the neurochemicals produced by healthy relationships can help melt pathways for bad habits and solidify new pathways that are more desirable.)”
― Amy Banks, Wired to Connect: The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships

“The science is clear. Social disconnection stimulates our brain’s pain pathways and our stress response systems, making it more likely we’ll seek out unhealthy sources of dopamine.”
― Amy Banks, Wired to Connect: The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships

“When we are under pressure to be highly separate, intensely independent individuals, we are at risk for cutting ourselves off from one of the primary healthy sources of dopamine. But it is possible to rewire your brain so that it can get more pleasure out of relationships—to crave human contact instead of unhealthy substitutes. The key, as Louis Cozolino writes in The Neuroscience of Human Relationships, is to understand that “healing involves reconnecting our dopamine reward system to relationships.”7 With practice and an understanding of how”
― Amy Banks, Wired to Connect: The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships