Remember Me This Way Quotes

“You can love and hate someone at the same time. You can so pity them it’s like a fist in your stomach, be so resentful you want to hit them. They can be the best thing that ever happened to you, and the worst. You can have thoughts of leaving them, and yet the memory of their skin, the pads of their fingers across your rib cage . . . these can take your breath away, even after a year.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“It never does any good to read someone’s diary. It always ends up being hurtful.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“She’s changed, become conscious of her own standing, lost her spirit.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I must have got carried away, because in the course of unraveling that terrible story (though I edited out its ending), I let slip where I grew up.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I touched her hand and gazed into her gray eyes and told her she was a saint. Weirdly, while I was forming the words, I meant them. Her love could save me. I felt a stirring inside that was almost sexual.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“Nine times out of ten someone is hiding something. Even if it’s just thoughts, desires, hopes. You can live in the same house, share the same bed, but how much do you ever really know anyone?”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“He had begun to break me. I felt responsible for his happiness and sanity.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“thinking how often the job of the bereaved is to shore up the self-worth of the comforter.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“Revenge is a dish best served cold.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“How toxic families are.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I feel concussed, wrong for company, out of place in the world. I feel as if I have no perspective on anything. I have a sharp sense of panic, as if I’m supposed to be doing something important, that I’ve abandoned it halfway through, that I should be somewhere elsewhere.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“The sea: it’s always a surprise. Zach used to say it was some sort of consolation, no matter where or when. You feel it coming, smell it in the air, sense the opening light, and then there it is – that great expanse, that stretch.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“feel as if I’m waiting. My limbs turn heavy and uncooperative. If I’m not careful, I think, I will fall down the stairs, crack my head, break all my bones. I’m scared I might die.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“The Flowering of Your Passing, had a chapter on ‘pathological grief’. It’s when a bereaved person finds it impossible to move on. I think pathological grief might be what I’ve got.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“You can love and hate someone at the same time. You can so pity them it’s like a fist in your stomach, be so resentful you want to hit them. They can be the best thing that ever happened to you, and the worst. You can have thoughts of leaving them and yet the memory of their skin, the pads of their fingers across your ribcage . . . these can take your breath away, even after a year.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I don’t know where to put myself. I succumb to lethargy and depression. I put things off.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I am beginning to understand why grief feels like suspense.’ C.S. Lewis”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“I hate it when people say “I won’t lie to you.” It means nothing. It’s just one of those phrases they use to make themselves sound more important. A verbal drumroll.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“He was sensitive to criticism; he was like a child who covers his work with his arm.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“This was underwear that had never seen active combat. Home Guard undies.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way

“If I could have drilled into her head and rummaged in her brains with my hands I would have done so.”
― Sabine Durrant, Remember Me This Way