Myth of Self-esteem Quotes

“As a fallible human, you can't help failing at work and at love, so your self-esteem is at best temporary. Even when it is high, you are in real danger of failing next time and of plummeting down again. Worse yet, since you know this after awhile, and you know that your worth as a person depends on your success, you make yourself anxious about important achievements-and, very likely, your anxiety interferes with your performances and makes you more likely to fail.”
― Albert Ellis, The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever

“We had better rate our important parts-our thoughts, feelings, and actions-to see how they helped or hindered us. But-damn it!-we didn't have to rate our self, our being, our essence. Our self or personhood was too complex to be given a global rating. We could say, for practical reasons, it was "good"-meaning it helped us to live and enjoy. Or we could say that it just didn't have to be rated at all. Use our self but not rate it!”
― Albert Ellis, The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever