The Forgiving Self Quotes

“Blame is very absorbent. It soaks up sadness. It dries the tears. It provides an opportunity and a target for fury which is felt as preferable to experiencing pain or loss—whether the loss is a cat, a spouse, an aspect of physical health, a loved object, a piece of work, a good nights sleep, an election, a colony, or a war. Blaming and vindictiveness are ways of not feeling one’s sorrow or shame and, by corollary, of not caring for oneself. Blame is the anti-mourn and, hence, the anti-self.”
― Robert Karen, The Forgiving Self: The Road from Resentment to Connection