Whatever It Takes Quotes

“Every child learned the skills and attitudes that are valued by their own class culture. But outside of the family unit, all skills were not considered to be equal. Modern American culture, Lareau wrote, valued the qualities that middle-class children were developing over the ones that poor and working-class children were developing. “Central institutions in the society, such as schools,” Lareau wrote, “firmly and decisively promote strategies of concerted cultivation in child rearing. For working-class and poor families, the cultural logic of child rearing at home is out of synch with the standards of institutions.” In one poor household Lareau studied, for example, family members didn’t look each other in the eye when they spoke—an appropriate response in a culture where eye contact can be interpreted as a threat, but ill-suited to a job interview where a firm handshake and a steady gaze are considered assets, and a failure to make eye contact can make a candidate seem shifty.”
― Paul Tough, Whatever It Takes: Geoffrey Canada's Quest to Change Harlem and America

“Economists use the term “human capital” to refer to the skills and abilities and qualities and resources that each individual possesses. And in the late 1990s and early 2000s, human capital became an increasingly popular way to look at the problem of poverty. No one had all the answers yet, but they had, at least, a new set of questions: What specific resources did middle-class children have that allowed them to succeed at such higher rates than poor children? What skills did poor children need to help them compete? And most important, what kind of interventions in their lives or in their parents’ lives could help them acquire those skills?”
― Paul Tough, Whatever It Takes: Geoffrey Canada's Quest to Change Harlem and America

“Of course poor people have deficits, researchers could now reply. That’s what poverty is: a lack of resources, both internal and external. But those deficits, whether they were in income or knowledge or even more esoteric qualities like self-control or perseverance or an optimistic outlook, were not moral failings. The appropriate response was not to deny them or excuse them, nor was it to criticize them and cluck about them and wag a finger at them. It was to solve them.”
― Paul Tough, Whatever It Takes: Geoffrey Canada's Quest to Change Harlem and America

“For her teenage daughter, though, those years didn’t go so well. She had always told Stry, “I’m not going to turn out like you,” and then that’s exactly how she did turn out: pregnant at sixteen, a mother at seventeen, living with her own baby boy in a group home for teenage mothers, just like the one she had lived in as a baby girl sixteen years earlier.”
― Paul Tough, Whatever It Takes: Geoffrey Canada's Quest to Change Harlem and America

“I was too young when I had her. Now I have a three-year-old daughter, and I know how I want to raise her: I want her to turn out the opposite of her seventeen-year-old sister.”
― Paul Tough, Whatever It Takes: Geoffrey Canada's Quest to Change Harlem and America