How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You Quotes

“Anger is the only negative emotion that people all over the world usually want to keep.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“The next time you feel angry, try to become aware of some of the physical sensations and changes that are occurring in your body. Remember that physical reactions accompanying your chronic anger can lead to damage, illness, and possibly premature death.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“For if you damn others for their errors, how can you not also damn yourself—your entire being or personhood—for your failings? Give some thought to that dilemma! Your hating others as persons, in other words, borders much too close on self-hatred.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“By forcefully telling nasty people off, or performing other cathartic acts, you will supposedly stop your aggressive energy from building to harmful levels.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“Try to remember the last time you felt extremely angry. Recall what you focused upon and how you acted. Were you able to reasonably consider good courses of action? Were you able to look at all your options? Did you make the best decision? Do you regret something you said or did? If you are like most people, you will see that you hardly think and behave at your best when you feel enraged.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“To successfully reduce your anger and more sanely face life’s difficulties, give up the idea that unfair situations, difficult people, and great frustrations automatically make you furious. Yes, they help. But you still largely create what you feel. To accept that responsibility is a crucial first”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“When your heart begins to pound, your face gets hot, your thoughts race, your blood pressure skyrockets, and adrenaline surges through your body, you will seldom act in a rational way. Your rage may lead to a constant struggle to control your actions. Your fury itself may feel very uncomfortable and be a constant reminder that you are not dealing effectively with the world around you.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“Anger can be likened to an architect’s blueprint. The availability of a blueprint does not cause a building to be constructed, but it does make construction easier.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“The relationships that are damaged are often your best.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“Another major difference between anger and other emotions results in what we call the angry person’s paradox. When we experience depression, guilt, shame, or anxiety, we usually upset ourselves about something that we think we did or some characteristic we have that we think is the cause of our disturbed emotion. As a result we try to change ourselves. However, anger usually involves the externalizing of blame. When we become angry, we usually consider the source of our anger to be outside ourselves. We would not be angry if other people did not do the stupid things they do. If we think the causes of anger are outside ourselves, the solution to our anger problems appears to us to be changes other people have to make. If the external cause of our anger is not going to change, we remain trapped in our rage.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“how it blocks them from reaching their goals”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

“people often want to remain angry. This represents a very important difference between anger and other troublesome emotions.”
― Albert Ellis, How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You