Love First Quotes

“We need to do things differently beginning now. If you are a family member or friend who loves a person who has an addiction, you know the nightmare. There is the nightmare of refusing treatment. There is the nightmare of not staying in treatment. There is the nightmare of not staying sober after treatment. This list doesn’t even begin to include the many losses, the fear, the worry, the desolation.
Professionals alone cannot do the job. We clearly see this truth all around us. Getting the job done requires a resource that has long been relegated to the sidelines, given no meaningful role to play in the treatment and recovery journey. This resource, as it turns out, is the most important one of all—the family.”
― Debra Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“Families in crisis have wrongly been labeled dysfunctional families. Families are not the problem—they are the opportunity. When we understand ourselves as the opportunity, we see our world with a new vision. We dare to hope for our dreams to materialize. We imagine once again what it will be like to be happy”
― Debra Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“Families in crisis have wrongly been labeled dysfunctional families. Families are not the problem—they are the opportunity. When we understand ourselves as the opportunity, we see our world with a new vision. We dare to hope for our dreams to materialize. We imagine once again what it will be like to be happy.”
― Debra Jay, Love First

“As you search for an interventionist, talk to at least three, asking knowledgeable”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“She is told by everyone in the group that each is willing to help her get into recovery, but no one is willing to help her stay sick.”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“The family members have an opportunity to explain how the addiction has affected them. The addict learns that the family, from now on, will only support recovery.”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“Recovering people explain it this way: “Once you’re a pickle, you can never be a cucumber again.”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“It is virtually impossible not to become what you think about most. If you concentrate on something long enough, it becomes part of your psyche…. If you think about problems, you will find problems. If you think about solutions, you will find solutions…. The successful person understands this and learns to overcome them by focusing on the desirable objective, not on undesirable distractions.”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“You calmly explain to your son that you love him very much and want to help him. You’ve seen the effects drugs are having on his life.”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“problems multiply over time. The only way”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention

“If putting the alcoholic back on his feet is the only way we know how to ease our pain, we will most likely”
― Jeff Jay, Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention