How to Get a Date Worth Keeping Quotes

“Rich loved taking care of women. He would swoop in like Tarzan swinging on a vine, rescue them from whatever situation they found themselves in, and be their hero. He would make all the decisions, and he would be strong and dependable. "What a catch!" they would feel.

But they did not see his inability to allow them to disagree or have an opinion. He could not yield to another person. He could not show weakness or vulnerability. He would make up for that inflexibility by being a very attractive "strong man" to women who would want to be swept off their feet more than they wanted a real person.

So, they would be a perfect match—until he would see the other side of a passive, compliant woman. She would be sneaky and not tell him exactly what was going on. Then, lo and behold, one day she would really "mess up" and have a wish contrary to somthing he wanted or valued. Then, from his perspective, she had "changed" and had become "selfish." "She used to be nice, and now look!"

But in reality, this is not what had happened. She had not changed. When they first met, she showed only half of who she was, hiding the other half, which would come out in sneaky, indirect ways. After a while, it came out directly, such as when she disagreed with him. Then he would cry, "Foul."

So they both got what they asked for. In her compliance, she attracted a controller. In his control he attracted an adaptive person who had a secret side and was indirect. They were co-conspirators, and it always blew up.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping

“The Bible teaches that God provides, even for the birds of the air, but the birds have to leave the nest and fly around to find the mosquitoes or the seeds God provides! There is some activity required on their part.

"Lady, if you don't want to marry the FedEx man or a Jehovah's Witness, you had better go outside!”
― Henry Cloud, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping

“Our lives are not just about the 'outside' circumstances. We participate in our external circumstances. We may not cause them, but we can control how we respond to them.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping

“If you have reached the point where your attachment is confusing your values, look to your team. Submit to them and give them permission to tie you to a tree! They are there to save your life. Allow them to.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping

“who only enjoys someone who mirrors everything he thinks or likes.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping