The Essential Enneagram Quotes

“These centers also represent the three basic needs that we all have for love (Heart Center), security (Head Center), and worth (Body Center) and their corresponding three basic emotions found in all mammals of distress, fear, and anger that occur respectively when love, security, and/or worth are not met.”
― David N. Daniels, The Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide — Revised & Updated – A Stanford Professor's Research-Based System for Nine Types

“Personal Development The ultimate goal of my development: To realize that we all are unconditionally and equally loved (accepted and appreciated for who we are) and that our worth and well-being come from within. How I can further my personal development: Paying attention to my own needs and well-being. Using anger/resistance as a signal that I feel discounted and that something inside me matters. Noticing feelings I may be blocking out when I turn from my real priorities to substitutes, such as TV, food, errands, or chores. Noticing when my ruminating keeps me from setting priorities and taking action on them. Accepting discomfort and change as a natural part of life. Practicing loving myself kindly and equally to loving others. What hinders my personal development: Feeling that I don’t count. Feeling that I don’t deserve to pursue my own agenda. Giving everything equal importance and, consequently, missing my real priorities. Avoiding the discomfort and disruption required for change. At the core, believing that to be valued and loved I must blend in and go along to get along. How others can support my development: Encouraging me to express my own position. Asking me what I want and what is good for me, and giving me time to figure out the answer. Supporting me when I act responsibly toward myself. Allowing me to acknowledge my anger. Encouraging me to set and keep my own boundaries, limits, and priorities.”
― David N. Daniels, The Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide — Revised & Updated – A Stanford Professor's Research-Based System for Nine Types