She's Intense Quotes

“But would you rather lower your standards to make yourself more accessible, or keep your standards where they are and watch who wants you enough to meet them? If you can offer what’s on your list of standards to another person, then your standards aren’t unrealistic. After all, if they come easily to you, why wouldn’t you want the same in return?”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“Your right to have a great life doesn’t depend on your circumstances. You deserve to live a life that feels good. No matter what.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“I wasn’t ready either, but you will figure it out as you go” is a good argument for traveling somewhere new for the first time. But it is not a valid argument for creating a real human being that you have to stay next to for years to come. It’s not even an argument. It’s a thought that didn’t require much thinking.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“Ask yourself, “If he kept behaving this way, would I be okay with it?” If you were to leave him acting as he normally does, without saying anything, would you like what you discover? If not, leave.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“If you feel like you don’t know what your unique set of hopes and desires is, it’s because it’s buried beneath all the shoulds, expectations, and to-do lists that have nothing to do with what you want for yourself. Keep digging.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“People who think, “Who does she think she is?” are the same people who don’t allow themselves to aim higher than their current level. Their opinion has nothing to do with your potential and everything to do with the limits they put on themselves.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“If a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, don’t expect him to act like your boyfriend. Men who don’t want a relationship will act as though they are single. Those are the guys who keep their options open and want their freedom of choice to stay intact.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“If you don’t want to follow in your family’s footsteps, good. If you feel like a black sheep in your family, good. It means you were born to stand out and forge your own path.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“And if you want to do anything in your life, there comes a point where you’re done with explaining and defending yourself and your decisions. You let people think whatever they need to think, and you focus on your part of the equation. You focus on who you want to be and what you want to do.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“Not wanting to have kids is perfectly valid. It’s okay. You don’t even have to like kids. There’s also a perfectly fine option where you like kids but don't want them for yourself. Just like you can like dolphins without feeling the need to get one for yourself.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“If you even think for a second about giving him a second chance, ask yourself, “A second chance for what?” Suppose a guy cheats on you and asks you for a second chance. A second chance for what? A second chance to cheat again? A second chance to lie to you again? A second chance to disrespect you again? Because it turned out so well the first time?”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“A man’s lack of effort is not an invitation for you to try harder.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“Not wanting to have kids is an unacceptable, mind-blowing concept for many, and yet it’s the most liberating decision for women who learned to feel guilty for not wanting to reproduce.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“If you don’t determine who you are and stand firm in your identity, you will attach your identity to the opinions of others. You’ll believe others when they tell you who they think you are and who you should be. If they say you’re selfish, you’ll believe them. If they say you don’t have what it takes to succeed, you’ll believe them. You will conform to the pressure to put your life on hold for someone else, stay quiet, nice, and agreeable instead of leading yourself with questions such as, “What feels authentic to me? Who do I want to be?”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“You don’t have to be the most confident version of yourself. You don’t have to have it all figured out. But you have to, for a moment, allow people to think whatever they want to think so that you can do what you want and need.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“You get to have completely different standards than you did your entire life. It’s never too late to start treating yourself with the respect you desire from others.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy

“It takes courage to acknowledge you want something different, say, “Good for her, but not for me,” or “Good for you, but not for me,” and ignite a path that no one in your family ever took.”
― Ivana Skoric, She's Intense: A Guide to Self-Respect and Personal Autonomy