The Joy of Living Quotes

“Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“A disciplined mind invites true joy.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“We choose ignorance because we can. We choose awareness because we can. Samsara and nirvana are simply different points of view based on the choices we make in how to examine and understand our experience. There’s nothing magical about nirvana and nothing bad or wrong about samsara. If you’re determined to think of yourself as limited, fearful, vulnerable, or scarred by past experience, know only that you have chosen to do so, and that the opportunity to experience yourself differently is always available.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The funny thing about the mind is that if you ask a question and then listen quietly, the answer usually appears.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Confusion, I was taught, is the beginning of understanding,”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The essence of Buddhist practice is not so much an effort at changing your thoughts or your behavior so that you can become a better person, but in realizing that no matter what you might think about the circumstances that define your life, you’re already good, whole, and complete. It’s about recognizing the inherent potential of your mind. In other words, Buddhism is not so much concerned with getting well as with recognizing that you are, right here, right now, as whole, as good, as essentially well as you could ever hope to be.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The teachings of the Buddha—and the lesson inherent in this exercise in non-meditation—is that if we allow ourselves to relax and take a mental step back, we can begin to recognize that all these different thoughts are simply coming and going within the context of an unlimited mind, which, like space, remains fundamentally unperturbed by whatever occurs within it.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“...I began to see that when the pace of external of material progress exceeded the development of inner knowledge, people seemed to suffer deep emotional conflicts without any internal method of dealing with them. An abundance of material items provides such a variety of external distractions that peolpe lose the connection ito their inner lives.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“All phenomena are expressions of the mind.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Let your own experience serve as your guide and inspiration. Let yourself enjoy the view as you travel along the path. The view is your own mind, and because your mind is already enlightened, if you take the opportunity to rest awhile along the journey, eventually you’ll realize that the place you want to reach is the place you already are.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“After a few years of asking some very pointed questions in public teachings and in private counseling sessions, I began to see that when the pace of external or material progress exceeded the development of inner knowledge, people seemed to suffer deep emotional conflicts without any internal method of dealing with them.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“limited by what is commonly referred to as dualism—the idea of a distinct and inherently real “self” that is separate from an apparently distinct and inherently real “other.” As we’ll explore later, dualism is not a “character flaw” or defect. It’s a complex survival mechanism deeply rooted in the structure and function of the brain—”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The opportunity to experience yourself differently is always available.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Through applying intention as well as attention to an experience, a person is able to shift the meaning of an experience from a painful or intolerable context to one that is tolerable or pleasant. Over”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“For example, children who were regularly humiliated and criticized by their parents or other adults may experience inappropriately strong feelings of fear, resentment, or other unpleasant emotions when dealing with authority figures in adult life.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“if, as the Buddha proposed in the first teachings he gave upon attaining enlightenment, the essence of ordinary life is suffering, then one of the most effective antidotes is laughter—particularly laughter at oneself. Every aspect of experience assumes a certain kind of brightness once you learn to laugh at yourself.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Nonconceptuality is an experience of the total openness of your mind. Your awareness is direct and unclouded by conceptual distinction such as “I” or “other,” subjects and objects, or any other form of limitation. It’s an experience of pure consciousness as infinite as space, without beginning, middle, or end. It’s like becoming awake within a dream and recognizing that everything experienced in the dream isn’t separate from the mind of the dreamer.
– Mingyur Rinpoche”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Whatever passes through your mind, don’t focus on it and don’t try to suppress it. Just observe it as it comes and goes.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“One of the earliest lessons I was taught by my father was that Buddhists don’t see the mind as a discrete entity, but rather as a perpetually unfolding experience.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The opportunity to receive these transmissions also taught me, in an indirect way, the extremely valuable lesson that to whatever degree a person commits himself or herself to the welfare of others, he or she is repaid a thousandfold by opportunities for learning and advancement. Every kind word, every smile you offer someone who might be having a bad day, comes back to you in ways you'd never expect.”
― Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The habit of thinking that things exist “out there” in the world or “in here” is hard to give up, though. It means letting go of all the illusions you cherish, and recognizing that everything you project, everything you think of as “other,” is in fact a spontaneous expression of your own mind.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“As in other exercises my father taught me, the way to begin is to sit up straight, breathe normally, and gradually allow your mind to relax. “With your mind at rest,” he instructed those of us in his little teaching room in Nepal, “just allow yourself to become aware of all the thoughts, feelings, and sensations passing through it. And as you watch them pass, simply ask yourself, ‘Is there a difference between the mind and the thoughts that pass through it? Is there any difference between the thinker and the thoughts perceived by the thinker?’ Continue watching your thoughts with these questions in mind for about three minutes or so, and then stop.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Compassion is reciprocal. As you develop your own mental and emotional stability and extend that stability through a compassionate understanding of others and dealing with them in a kind, empathetic way, your own intentions or aspirations will be fulfilled more quickly and easily. Why? Because if you treat others compassionately—with the understanding that they have the same desire for happiness and the same desire to avoid unhappiness that you do—then the people around you feel a sense of attraction, a sense of wanting to help you as much as you help them.

…In a sense, compassion practice demonstrates the truth of interdependence in action. The more openhearted you become toward others, the more openhearted they become toward you.”
― Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“Don’t criticize or condemn yourself when you find yourself following after thoughts. The fact that you’ve caught yourself reliving a past event or projecting into the future is enough to bring you back to the present moment and strengthens your intention to meditate. Your intention to meditate as you engage in practice is the crucial factor.
It’s also important to proceed slowly. My father was very careful to tell all his new students, including me, that the most effective approach in the beginning is to rest the mind for very short periods many times a day. Otherwise, he said, you run the risk of growing bored or becoming disappointed with your progress and eventually give up trying altogether. “Drip by drip,” the old texts say, “a cup gets filled.”

(…) there is one very practical guideline, which my father emphasized again and again to all of his students in a way that would make it easy for us to remember: Short periods, many times.

(…) Meditation is about learning to work with the mind as it is, not about trying to force it into some sort of Buddhist straitjacket.”
― Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“…freedom rarely arrives in the form we think it should. In fact, for most of us, freedom feels not only unfamiliar but distinctly unpleasant. That’s because we’re used to our chains. They might chafe, they might make us bleed, but at least they’re familiar. Familiarity is just a thought, however, or sometimes a feeling.”
― Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The Buddha compared attachment to drinking salt water from an ocean. The more we drink, the thirstier we get. Likewise, when our mind is conditioned by attachment, however much we have, we never really experience contentment. We lose the ability to distinguish between the bare experience of happiness and whatever objects temporarily make us happy. As a result, we not only become dependent on the object, but we also reinforce the neuronal patterns that condition us to rely on an external source to give us happiness.”
― Mingyur Rinpoche, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“The essence of Buddhist practice is not so much an effort at changing your thoughts or your behavior so that you can become a better person, but in realizing that no matter what you might think about the circumstances that define your life, you’re already good, whole, and complete.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“By this power, may all beings, Having accumulated strength and wisdom, Achieve the two clear states That arise from strength and wisdom.”
― Yongey Mingyur, The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness

“This basic attitude of hopelessness sits like a layer of sludge on the bottom of a river, present but unseen.”
― Yongey Mingyur, Joyful Wisdom: Embracing Change and Finding Freedom

“Buddhist meditation practice: the opportunity to use diticult conditions-and the disturbing emotions that usually accompany them to unlock the power and potential of the human mind. Many people never discover this transtormative capacity or the breadth of inner freedom it allows. Simply coping with the internal and external challenges that present themselves on a daily basis leaves little time for reflection for taking what might be called a "mental step back"' to evaluate our habitual responses to day-to-day events and consider that perhaps there may be other options. Over time, a deadening sense of inevitability sets in: This is the way I am, this is the way life works, there's nothing I can do to change it.”
― Yongey Mingyur, Joyful Wisdom: Embracing Change and Finding Freedom