The Emotional First Aid Kit Quotes

“COUPLES HAVING BARIATRIC SURGERY TOGETHER It happens more and more often: Two people will have bariatric surgery together. It is difficult being the patient. It can also be trying for the significant other. When couples have the surgery together, it can be twice as hard. Each person has the problems of both the patient and the significant other. I have found that people in healthy relationships do well together, but those having problems often see increased relationship difficulties after surgery. If you plan to have the surgery with a partner, try to remain independent as far as exercise and food choices. Working out together is a bonus, but do not get into the habit of skipping workouts because your partner cannot participate. Do not let your partner be in charge of your habits. Good communication is the key to a couple’s success. Before the surgery, discuss the logistics of the changes you must make. After the surgery, talk to each other weekly about your feelings regarding the surgery and the changes you are both experiencing. It is possible to grow much closer as a couple as a result of this experience. There will be a tendency to talk each other into tiny cheats. Typically, this is how it works: “C’mon, let’s just have a little bit. We deserve it.” Having the surgery together represents some increased challenges, but has the potential for increased excitement and support. Keep communication flowing and problems will be minimized.”
― Cynthia L. Alexander, The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery

“I’m just not an exercise person.” Very few people are. Remember you don’t need to be motivated or love exercise to do it. I know some people that absolutely despise it, but do it simply for weight maintenance.”
― Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery

“IT TAKES SIX MONTHS TO A YEAR for exercise to become a habit. The external rewards will help get you to that point. After it becomes a habit, it will be more difficult to skip your workout, and the internal rewards may be enough to sustain your motivation.”
― Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery

“CAN’T SEEM TO GET MOTIVATED? Tell yourself you only have to exercise for five minutes. Go ahead and put on your workout clothes and get started. If after five minutes you just can’t go on for any reason…you may quit. At least you know you gave it the old college try.”
― Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery

“Bariatric surgery is often referred to by healthcare providers as a “tool” to help you achieve your weight loss goals. This is realistic in regards to weight loss, but many people believe it is much more than that. Try to think of it as an “assistant,” rather than a tool as this more accurately describes its role.”
― Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery