What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex? Quotes

“Many asexuals know that they are different at a very early age, just like many others in the queer community. They should not have to grow up feeling isolated, alone and wrong. I would encourage the broader queer community to consider the history of homosexual and bisexual rights and community; to open their arms to the asexual community.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Women who are sexual are often shamed through the use of words like "slut," and "whore." Women who are not overly sexual or sexual at all are shamed through words and phrases like "frigid bitch," and "prude”.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Marriages that are truly asexual, and therefore unconsummated, can be legally annulled. So if I was married to another ace and one of us died, their family could challenge the marriage on the grounds that it was not a marriage as sex was not involved.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Asexuality has not been a visible identity until very recently. Even now it is a marginal and tiny community, fragile in its infancy.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Queer youth face higher rates of suicide, depression and anxiety. A recent study on asexuals showed an even higher rate of suicidal thoughts, depression and anxiety than what is normally found in the queer community ... because the stigma of asexuality exists at some level even in the broader queer community.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Not all asexuals masturbate, and some have low-levels of sexual desire in addition to not experiencing sexual attraction. However limiting the definition of asexuality to those who do not masturbate excludes a large portion of people who do not experience sexual attraction.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Our culture tends to conflate sexual and romantic attraction, but the two are not the same thing. Nor are they the only types of attraction humans experience.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“Asexuality is a sexual orientation, and orientations do not describe behavior they describe attraction.xv Orientation is not behavior, attraction is not action.xvi Celibacy and abstinence both imply a sacrifice as one is preventing oneself from acting on a desire or impulse. Asexuality, like other orientations, is not a choice. Aces do not feel sexual attraction to others, and there is no sacrifice involved in not having a sexual relationship.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?

“I do not dream of sex. For me it would be like dreaming of lettuce, which I am neither crazy about nor disgusted by. Lettuce is just there. It is not something I think about without prompting, and even with prompting I will try to find something that does actually interest me.”
― Amanda C. Lee, What Do You Mean You're Not Interested In Sex?