Should you Leave? A Psychiatrist explores Intimacy and Autonomy - and the Nature of Advice Quotes

“When people come into the office and say they've tried to make their marriage work, and I hear what the effort was, it seems to me that there's some lack of understanding of what effort is.”
― Peter D. Kramer, Should you Leave? A Psychiatrist explores Intimacy and Autonomy - and the Nature of Advice

“The advice that I have valued in my own life has never turned on fixed maxims or canned metaphors. More crucially, lists of precepts don't work like targeted advice because lists contain inherently constraining messages. They seem to say that complex matters are knowable, that a given process leads to foreseeable results. It implies a thin and predictable world, whereas the sort of advice that has mattered to me bespeaks a quite tentative optimism, the optimism of the quest whose outcome is finally unknowable.”
― Peter D. Kramer, Should you Leave? A Psychiatrist explores Intimacy and Autonomy - and the Nature of Advice