The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD Quotes

“For those of you with ADHD, please hear what we are saying. Your tolerance for pain and failure—the ability to “go with the flow”—is most likely a coping strategy for dealing with the inconsistencies that your ADHD has created. It is time for a new coping strategy. The old one—creating a high pain threshold and going along—has not served you as well as you have convinced yourself. It is part of the reason that your relationship is in trouble. That pain threshold does not align with your partner’s needs. A better relationship strategy is to face the ADHD symptoms head on and treat them, using every resource science suggests will work.”
― Melissa Orlov, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

“Leg 1 treatments can enhance focus, diminish hyperactivity of the mind or body, clear your mind, and more. That’s amazing, but what’s important from a relationship perspective is what you do with that new clarity and attention. You must take your ability to focus better and then apply that focus to improving the behaviors you exhibit with your partner.”
― Melissa Orlov, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

“Couple #1—ADHD partner: I fully acknowledge that I do NOT want to argue with my wife anymore. However, when discussing something with my spouse, I still sometimes have an overwhelming sense of being attacked, of being bossed around, and of being talked down to, and these feelings are greatly increased if this happens in front of the kids. What can I do to help ease these feelings so that I don’t act out impulsively and hurtfully towards my wife? I don’t want to do this, but it is very hard to control these emotions.”
― Melissa Orlov, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

“also some evidence that a gluten free diet may substantially improve ADHD symptoms for those who have undiagnosed celiac disease, which is more highly represented in the ADHD population than the population at large. Fifteen percent of those with ADHD have celiac disease versus one percent of the general population (Niederhofer, H., n.d.). The data is less clear for those who simply have gluten intolerance.”
― Melissa Orlov, The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD