The People Factor Quotes

“Simply put, to be intimate means to allow yourself to be known—fully and deeply, in every way. I often explain this concept using the familiar saying that intimacy implies “into-me-see.” This means not being afraid to let others see you for who you really are, which is the essence of being real and transparent. It means being honest about your strengths and your weaknesses; it means not trying to hide your flaws and not being bashful about your significant accomplishments. It also means being open about your hopes and dreams, and about your fears and concerns. In addition, being intimate means consistently offering the real you to another person who is also willing to be real and transparent. To be intimate with another human being is to communicate, in many different ways: “This is who I am. This is everything I am and this is all I am—nothing more, nothing less, nothing better, nothing worse.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“So how do you know whether a person has integrity? After all, like the foundation of a house, it may not be visible at first glance. It may not show up when you have pizza together or sit around a boardroom table for a meeting, but sooner or later, a situation will arise that will tell you whether someone operates with integrity or not.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with. And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes. And the changes are what you become. Change the outcome by changing your circle.”1”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Having the courage to choose to be vulnerable takes a strong, secure, stable person.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“We can love people who do not have integrity, but we cannot allow ourselves to walk closely with them in purposeful relationships.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“You need to be around people who challenge you to grow and who refuse to allow you to settle for mediocrity.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“People of integrity are people who love, seek, and cling to truth. They also require truth from others.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Truth must be part of the foundation of any relationship.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Today people are in your life in the present, and they are satisfied to live today, not looking back, but not really looking forward either.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Unless we tear down our walls of self-protection, we will never experience the joy of being truly protected.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Realize that everyone cannot see and understand as you do. Many times when God begins to lead you in a particular direction, He has been preparing you for a change for quite some time. You will perceive what He is doing and where He wants to take you in a deeply personal way. You may be able to see how the place you are going is exactly the right next step for you, and you may have the wisdom you need to go through the various steps of the journey. But because this is something God is doing in your life, the people around you cannot always sense or discern where and how God is leading you. They may not even recognize the general direction in which He is moving you during this particular time. When these dynamics enter into a relationship, I believe they are huge indicators of a need for transition.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“The easiest person in the world to deceive is yourself. Think about it: You can so easily tell yourself you are smarter, more attractive, more creative, more loyal, more honest, or more anything than you actually are. And whatever you tell yourself, you believe.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Yesterday people are the ones who populated your past and will keep you bound to situations that happened long ago.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Regardless of age or experience, a true synergistic friend will stand with you and provide the protection of companionship and prayer.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Every living being is designed to grow and thrive.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“When both people are free to be who they are, they are safe and secure.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“A meaningful relationship is only possible when respect, honor, and values are shared.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“The success of any relationship depends on having two people who both give and receive; it requires mutual pursuit and joint benefit.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Put your whole self—your real self—into your relationships, so you can participate in and enjoy real relationships in return.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“When people show you who they are, pay attention!”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“We are to love others as God loves us, forgive others as He forgives us, and ideally we are to handle others as He handles us.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. —PROVERBS 13:20”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with. And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes. And the changes are what you become. Change the outcome by changing your circle.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“One essential of an enjoyable, purpose-filled, successful life is surrounding yourself with people who can benefit you as much as you benefit them.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“To enjoy success in our lives and in our dealings with others, we need to thoroughly know our true selves and allow the right people to know us completely as well.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“To build and maintain deep, substantive relationships, people must know themselves, be honest about themselves, and share their true selves with others.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“The kind of requirements you place upon others reveals the kind of person you are. You have to require integrity from those with whom you relate.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“• What do you think are my best qualities? • What do you think are my greatest weaknesses? • Do you believe I consistently tell the truth? • How well do you think I know myself? • What do you think is the biggest deception I have about myself? • Do you feel you can depend on me in an emergency or a crisis? • In what ways have I earned your respect? • Do you trust me? • What one thing do you think I could do to improve my life and my ability to relate to others? • Do you think I treat other people with honor and respect? • Do I have a good record of keeping my word and doing what I say I will do? • Do you believe I am open to constructive criticism and to making personal adjustments when others speak the truth lovingly to me?”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“your past does not define you. It may have impacted you, but it does not dictate your present or your future.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose

“Excellence demands continual, passionate effort. It is a goal you have to go after all the time.”
― Van Moody, The People Factor: How Building Great Relationships and Ending Bad Ones Unlocks Your God-Given Purpose