The Dude's Guide to Manhood Quotes

“When we think of pride we tend to think about arrogance—the guy who talks about himself all the time. But we don’t often recognize it in the guy who spends his days worrying about his own success even if he never says a word about it. They are both consumed with themselves, but their pride takes different forms. Pride is ultimately an inordinate focus on the self.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Authentic friendship is not one-sided. It is an equal commitment from both parties. True friends both give and receive. True friends know you and want to be known by you—celebrate you and are willing to be celebrated by you. They challenge you and seek to be challenged by you. And they serve you and are willing to be served by you.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Our lack of discipline destroys our freedom. Because we try and don’t train wisely, we end up being emotionally driven. We are slaves to the spectacular and the spontaneous. Most men would rather be entertained than be a part of transforming the world, and that erodes manliness and undercuts our confidence. If we can’t control ourselves, then we will be controlled by everything else. The angry, domineering masculinity that is so dangerous arises in part because impotent men lack self-control. They lash out because they are frustrated that they cannot control others around them. But they do not control themselves, either, and self-control is where true freedom begins.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Cultivate relationships with others before we need them. The best way to grow before our circumstances force us to is to cultivate relationships with others. There is no coachability apart from the risk and accountability that comes with being in relationships with others.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Part of the problem is that we have no idea what a friend actually is. A friend is someone who knows your hopes, dreams, and fears. They don’t stay on the surface—they go deep. And they are committed to help you conquer your fears, live out your dreams, and grow in your character.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“We also need to quit using our fathers as excuses for our lives now. It is too easy to blame everything on our “dad issues.” They’re important, yes, but once we recognize them, we have to begin to take responsibility for ourselves and accept our own roles in our problems. Many men are tempted to look at others for their problems when they should be looking at themselves.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Discipline is rarely enjoyable, but almost always profitable.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“I believe males should really be men. We don’t need more boys, we need real men. Strong, godly, mature men. No man is perfect and we will all fall short at times.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“In my career and life I have watched many men fail. They didn’t fail because they weren’t passionate. They didn’t fail because they didn’t try. They didn’t fail because they didn’t work hard. Many of them failed because they didn’t prepare or, more specifically, weren’t prepared. They just weren’t ready to be men. Biologically they were ready, able to reproduce. Vocationally they were ready, empowered by formal or informal education. But, emotionally and spiritually they were not ready to assume the responsibilities of manhood. Most of them had no models for how to be men and some of them rejected the models they did have.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Fear Some people are so consumed by their fear of what will come tomorrow that they cannot embrace today. They worry that if they enjoy something a little too much, they will be devastated if it goes away. As a result, people who are consumed by fear are always hedging their bets, always pulling back at the last second from the edge of truly enjoying life.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“ARE YOU A SETTLER, DRIVER, OR REBEL?”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Jesus is the true man.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Accomplishing anything of significance doesn’t happen because we try really hard but because we train really well. We”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Within every man there is the potential for true manhood. If they learn how to, men can exercise self-control and leadership in any and every situation. But without fathers to help us discover that in healthy ways, we can end up never cultivating our manhood or abusing it and others around us.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Determination isn’t always about succeeding. Sometimes determination means simply surviving, pressing on in the face of what feels like insurmountable obstacles. But as men, we need to realize that our friends and families depend on us to become all we are called to be.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“To be a friend, we must be willing to risk the friendship by speaking the hard truths and by living a life of service, even when those aren’t initially welcomed. Unless we are willing to risk everything for the sake of others’ good and well-being, we are not really their friends.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“The Organization Kid.”4 These kids are always going, always on the run, always trying to beef up their résumés so they can achieve all their dreams. But the problem is that once they “arrive,” they find themselves no more content than they were on the journey.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Self-pity is the voice of pride in the heart of the weak .”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“The power we have in Christ allows us to take responsibility for ourselves. It sets us free from sin, but not free from our responsibility for it.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“When we meet Jesus, we realize that we don’t have problems—we are the problem.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“True manhood doesn’t mean being perfect ourselves; it means trusting in Christ’s perfection for us.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Jesus is much more than an example to us in all these things. He is the one who enables us to become like him because he frees us from the guilt we feel when we see how short we have fallen of his perfection. We were created to be true men—men of courage and industry and goodness. But that glory has been buried because of our ongoing rebellion against the Creator. It’s not just that we can’t be perfect; it’s that we don’t want to be perfect and so we hate the One who is.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“One of the main ways men project their pride is through self-pity. Men with this kind of pride see their lives as perpetually too hard and their schedules too busy, and they feel as though bad breaks happen to them too often.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“One of the main ways men project their pride is through self-pity. Men with this kind of pride see their lives as perpetually too hard and their schedules too busy, and they feel as though bad breaks happen to them too”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Without good character, everything else is meaningless. If a man’s character is rotten, then with enough time it will eventually spoil the rest of his life.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Beneath the word confess is a sense of togetherness: it means “to acknowledge something with someone else.”2 A man who confesses wants to remain with others. He doesn’t want to be alone in his lies and deceptions. He wants fellowship, community, the company of friends.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Our work is central to our manhood. It is something we have been (as we’ve seen) made to do, something to be embraced willingly and joyfully. But we have to rest well to work well; the rest completes and perfects the work itself.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Turns out, we don’t want to be content. We keep buying more stuff and doing more things. The striving is endless. The pile of gadgets grows, and the desire for bigger houses, nicer cars, and a cooler wardrobe is insatiable.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“The old Norse word for husband literally means “one who draws out of the soil the riches that are buried there.”3”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits

“Accomplishing anything of significance doesn’t happen because we try really hard but because we train really well.”
― Darrin Patrick, The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits