Keep Your Love On Quotes

“To see the pattern for the Christian life, we must look at Jesus. When we do, we see that Jesus prioritized certain relationships over others. He did not offer the same level of access and intimacy to everyone around Him. First and foremost, His primary allegiance was always to the Father. At twelve years old, He was already about His Father’s business.1 Everything Jesus did revolved around prioritizing that core relationship above all others.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“When you commit to becoming the best communicator you could possibly be, you commit to connection, and to being a truly powerful person. Not only will your relationship with your heart change for the better, but your relationships with others will be transformed.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Communication exposes what is going on inside the human heart. Jesus said, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”1 If your heart, your internal reality, is governed by fear, then you are going to telegraph that through your body language, facial expressions, words, and tone. Conversely, if your heart is governed by faith, hope, and love, you will release this reality through what you say and how you say it.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“We have a deep, God-created need for intimacy, love, and comfort. But if we look to things that were not designed to meet these needs and elevate them above everything else—making them idols—then the result is always bondage and destruction. It’s only when we place God at the center that we can access the comfort, peace, safety, joy, and pleasure that truly meets our deepest needs. Only faith in the One who made us can make us truly free.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Not wanting dog mess in the house doesn’t mean I don’t want my son in the house. I separate him from the mess. I can love him and still require him to eliminate the mess before he comes inside.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Then ask the Holy Spirit to come and tell you the truth. A model repentance prayer could look something like this: In the name of Jesus, I renounce the lie that [ ]
I nail it to the cross of Jesus Christ and send it away from me, never to return again. Holy Spirit, what truth would you like to give me in its place? (Write down what He tells you.)”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“After failing to get a powerful person to offer them any more options, powerless people will either change in order to start living powerfully or they will find someone else to dump on.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“A healthy, lasting relationship can only be built between two people who choose one another and take full responsibility for that choice.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“know a woman who decided she would no longer contribute to any disrespectful conversation ever again. The next time she and her husband had a disagreement that led into rage and intimidation, she stopped and announced, “I’ll be glad to finish this conversation when it becomes respectful. I can see you are upset. As long as it stays respectful, I’ll stay.” He continued to explode. She walked out. He was stunned at first, then angry. He felt powerless and punished; he sat and fumed in anger. His wife waited a full hour before she returned to the room. She had remained calm and self-controlled, because she had a genuine desire to resolve the conflict. She came and asked him if he wanted to have the conversation again.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“When you start telling people what you’re going to do and what you’re not going to do and follow through on both, people come to believe what you say. Your words have weight.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“I would never have been able to make and keep the boundaries I have set around the relationships in my life if I had not said “yes” to that primary relationship with Jesus. If you don’t prioritize your relationship with God, then your God Spot will end up with a human being in it. That, my friend, is idolatry.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Sadly, sometimes people in our inner circle hurt or scare us very seriously and are unwilling to clean up the mess they made. If that happens, we must move them out to a place of access that they can handle. Some people who once held the “most intimate” place in our lives may find themselves out in the Al Qaeda sphere. We can keep our love on toward them, but it may be a very long time before we ever have them over for dinner.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“This might be news to you, but not everyone should have the same access to you. You are responsible to manage different levels of intimacy, responsibility, influence, and trust with people in your life. Likewise, you are responsible to honor the different levels of access and influence others allow you to have in their lives. These levels are absolutely righteous, healthy, normal, and good. It is supposed to be like this! It has to be like this. When we expect that we should all have equal access to one another, we are setting ourselves up to violate and be violated.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“And I have to tell them the bad news: Everywhere you go, there you are again.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Did you learn to love?” This is the question. That is the one thing you are responsible for. It is the only thing that God cannot work out for you. No matter what miraculous things God is doing around you and through you, you must never lose sight of this priority. All the signs, wonders, gifts, and supernatural events in the world do not prove that you are connected heart-to-heart with God. Jesus warned about the last days when people will come to Him and ask, “Didn’t I prophesy the paint off the wall? Didn’t I do amazing things in your Name?” and hear Him say, “I never knew you.”5 Do you want Jesus to know you? Do you want to know Him? Then love Him and love others. The Bible couldn’t be more clear about this: “But if anyone loves God, this one is known by Him.”6 “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”7 People who really know God can do shocking things. They can do powerful things. They can love people that many would declare unforgiveable and impossible to love.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“To see the pattern for the Christian life, we must look at Jesus. When we do, we see that Jesus prioritized certain relationships over others. He did not offer the same level of access and intimacy to everyone around Him. First and foremost, His primary allegiance was always to the Father. At twelve years old, He was already about His Father’s business.1 Everything Jesus did revolved around prioritizing that core relationship above all others. After the Father, the Gospels indicate that Jesus’ closest relationships were with the twelve disciples. These were the people He partnered with, traveled with, taught, trained, and trusted. Within that group, He was especially closest to Peter, James, and John. They were privileged to share incredible revelations, encounters, and conversations with Jesus that no one else did. And of those three, we know that John was the one Jesus loved, the one He charged with taking over His role as Mary’s son.2 The twelve, the three, and the one—this is the picture Jesus gave us of how many relationships we have the capacity to cultivate, and how to prioritize them according to levels of intimacy.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“the person is consuming too much of your garden for you to stay healthy, you will also need to limit the access the person has in your life, while still keeping your love on.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“powerful enough to hold up your commitment to pursue the standard of respect in your interactions.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“can be one of the most difficult things in the world to set a boundary with someone in your inner circle who is breaking your heart with his or her choices. But if you want to protect your relationship with that person, you must be”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Codependency is driven by the agreement that I will work harder on your problem and your life than you do. That is not love.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“His priorities alone must define your life and choices, not the needs and”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“If the needs and wishes of your spouse, kids, or best friend start to gain a greater hold on your heart’s affections and begin to define your priorities and choices, then you betray your allegiance to God.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“You’re not in agreement with God on this one, Peter,” He went on to explain. “You are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.”3 Jesus had to set a limit with Peter because he was threatening Jesus’ first priority to do His Father’s will.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

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― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“But if we look to things that were not designed to meet these needs and elevate them above everything else—making them idols—then the result is always bondage and destruction. It’s only when we place God at the center that we can access the comfort, peace, safety, joy, and pleasure that truly meets our deepest needs. Only faith in the One who made us can make us truly free.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“They will continue to recreate their victimized reality as long as they refuse to repent from it and pursue being powerful.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

“Popular opinion or the pressure of others does not sway the language of powerful people. They know exactly what they want and how to communicate their desires. A powerful person says, “I will. I do. I am.” Powerful people can say both “Yes” and “No,” and mean it. Others can try to manipulate, charm, and threaten, but their answer will stand.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

“Because they cannot take responsibility for their decisions, powerless people are relegated to reacting to whatever is going on around them on a daily basis. But as a powerful person, I do not simply react to whatever is happening today. I am able to take responsibility for my decisions and the consequences of those decisions—even for my mistakes and failures. I can respond to today and create my tomorrows.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

“Some people mistakenly think Jesus is like them—a whacked-out, co-dependent person at the mercy of everybody’s needs.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

“It’s hard to go out and love sinners like Jesus did when you’re still afraid of your own sin.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On