Forgiveness Quotes

“Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“God is love. Love is always present, surrounding us; guiding, growing, and teaching us. Even in the midst of total chaos, pain, and dysfunction, love is calling us to a higher experience and expression.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“If you are a woman, you may need to forgive those whom you have loved or those who refused to love you; those who have hurt you, shamed you, and abandoned you; or those who left you scarred or wounded.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison. —NELSON MANDELA”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“FORGIVENESS ADDRESSES HOW WE THINK AND FEEL ABOUT OTHERS AND OURSELVES AND HOW THOSE THOUGHTS MANIFEST WITHIN OUR LIVES AS ENERGY.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“I now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“What we eventually uncovered was that I was afraid—afraid to ask for what I wanted, afraid to speak up for myself, afraid that I didn’t have what it took to do what I really wanted to do. In response to my fears, I blamed other people for what I considered their failure to acknowledge me. The conversation didn’t stop there.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Feelings come and they pass. Whatever we are feeling in any given moment is just a passing experience. Our work is to learn to accept what we feel and to learn to let it pass.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Whether or not we know what we are creating or how we are creating it, when things do not turn out the way we desire, our human instincts drive us to look for someone to blame.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Forgiveness is not an easy chore to undertake, nor is it for the weak. I forgive you, God, for leaving me out here to figure out all of this on my own. Yet forgiveness is the daily minimum requirement for a healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful life. I forgive my mind for believing that what was is what always has to be.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“COMPARISON IS AN ACT OF VIOLENCE AGAINST THE SELF”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“HAD I NOT SPENT SO MUCH TIME DOING SOMETHING THAT MADE ME SO MISERABLE, I WOULD HAVE NEVER LEARNED HOW TO APPRECIATE DOING WHAT BRINGS ME JOY.  ”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“The greatest gift of surrender was that it helped me to realize that it is arrogant of me not to forgive myself when God forgives me.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Once you become willing to let it all go, God will open a new space in your heart and rewire your brain to know, receive, and express love in healthy ways. I forgive myself for believing that what I made up about who they were is the truth I had to live with for years of my life.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Help me to see new ways of being as I release old ways of seeing.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Judgment is harsh and mean and meant to hurt, as if the pain of what we do or say will slap others into our way of believing.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“FORGIVENESS IS A SILENT, INTIMATE TEACHER. SHE IS ALWAYS READY TO BRING THE LESSONS YOU NEED, WHETHER OR NOT YOU WANT TO LEARN.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Let yourself remember and visualize the ways you have hurt others. See the pain you have caused out of your own fear and confusion. Feel your own sorrow and regret. Sense that finally you can release this burden and ask for forgiveness. Take as much time as you need to picture each memory that still burdens your heart.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self. It also leads to judgments and jealousy of those we deem “better off” than we are. If we aren’t the ones doing the comparing, then we’re the ones against whom other women measure themselves. In either case, the comparison, judgments, and jealousy can lead to ugly behavior.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Before you can live a part of you has to die.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“Forgiveness frees the forgiver.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“When you spend more time being angry, hurt, and upset about what happened, you pretty much barricade the door of what is possible.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“THE REASON YOU KEEP ATTRACTING THE ONES WHO LEAVE IS BECAUSE YOU EXPECT THEM TO DO SO.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“The impact of a lack of self-acceptance is intensified in the relationships between and among women.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“It has set me free from the prison of my mind that caused me to judge others and myself.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“TRIED SO HARD TO KEEP THEM FROM FAILING THAT I FAILED TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY NEEDED TO SUCCEED”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything

“The challenge with those whom we love is that they are the only ones who can get close enough to us to cause us heartbreak.”
― Iyanla Vanzant, Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything