Date Smarter Quotes

“We unknowingly limit our dating options through the routines we create.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Love can unfold in surprising ways, but it’s also a numbers game—one that can be steered by intentional choices.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“The strategy I used with Kayla is what I call the “Satisficer Solution.” It’s based on the work of Nobel Prize–winning economist Herb Simon and is especially effective for people like Kayla, who set a threshold of suitability and are open to any of the options that meet or exceed it. These “Satisficers” are happy with a “good enough” outcome. They’re not settling for someone unsatisfactory—not at all—they’re just more inclined to find satisfaction with the choices available to them.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Planning a good date takes energy, intentionality, and sometimes downright creativity. For many of us, it may even be accompanied by some nerves. What’s Plan B if our picnic gets rained out? Is this brewery going to impress? Will we unexpectedly run into my gastroenterologist? If you’re asking yourself these questions, there’s a good chance they are, too.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“For times you don’t get a response, you might want to reach out again. Perhaps even multiple times. But here’s the thing—don’t do that. Bombarding someone with follow-up communication isn’t effective. If you’re tempted to send a barrage of messages, take a deep breath and consider this: less is more. A better strategy: Wait 48 hours, then send one—and only one—polite follow-up message.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Dating involves compromise, kindness, and respect. It requires recognizing that while you may be busy, your date probably is too. They have their own priorities, just as you do. And if you hope to build a life together—one built on a strong foundation—you must show them, their schedule, and their priorities the same respect you give your own.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“While your time, money, energy, and enthusiasm are limited resources, always remember that dating is not an economic exchange; people are not goods we trade on a marketplace; and love is not cultivated through ultimatums.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Your goal is not to plan the perfect date. Your goal is to plan a date to help you meet the perfect person.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Like dynamite, a dating app is a fantastic tool which needs to be handled carefully.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Think of dating app filters like hot sauce—great when used in moderation. Not so great when used in excess.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“When we meet someone online, it’s easy to show up to the date thinking, ‘What might I not like about this person?’ Imagine instead wondering, ‘What might I like about this person?”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Dating apps may be the most accessible entry point into dating, but they’re not the most efficient.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“We often build people up in our minds in an overly optimistic fashion. It’s important to challenge our assumptions about what might have been.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Your goal isn’t to gloss over your disappointment. It’s to embrace the reality that you don’t have to take rejection personally.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Rejection is rarely personal. It usually reflects conditions outside our control.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Directness is not just about clarity. It’s about respecting our intentions and communicating them honestly.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“An icebreaker isn’t a cinematic one-liner. It’s an opportunity to establish contact—a chance to open doors to authentic communication.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“We now live in a world where we often first look to dating apps to play matchmaker, yet the possibilities of meeting organically are still all around us.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Choosing meeting venues strategically involves considering both the activity’s appeal and the time commitment. Stated differently: Do stuff that doesn’t suck. Do stuff that doesn’t suck up your whole day.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“If you’re fixating on certainty, you’re going to be disappointed... Success is based not on the precision of your Date Number, but on the degree to which you use it to be more intentional.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Your Date Number is a finite commitment... knowing what you’re signing up for can alter your perception of the journey.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance

“Maximizers often go on many first dates—inevitably discovering incompatibilities—and then choose not to meet up for a second date.”
― Tim Molnar, Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide to Navigating Modern Romance