The Love Haters Quotes

“The funny thing about the internet is that it is basically a collective hallucination. If you don't join in, it doesn't exist.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“Every time you have to be brave, you get to be a little braver next time. That’s what life is for.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“Reading love stories isn’t frivolous. It’s profound. It’s not escape, it’s the opposite. Trust me, and trust yourself: love stories are the best kinds of therapy. They aren’t shallow, they’re deep. Start looking and you’ll see it, too. Love stories make us better at love. In all directions. And getting better at love of course, means getting better at life.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“The thing you’re afraid of is never the thing you should be afraid of.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“People in good relationships had to appreciate each other—say thank you, give compliments, notice what their partner was getting right—in ways that created a cushion of warmth and kindness that eased everything else.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“It's called a time horizon- a sense of how much time we have remaining. For teenagers, it's vast. It's infinite. But as we get older, it shortens and shortens- and we can't help but feel it. As it shrinks, it makes everything more precious. We appreciate the days more because there are fewer of them to come. And it's really true. I felt it so much today. How fast it all goes. How much we have to be thankful for. What a miracle each breath is.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“If you don’t reject the harsh things people say to you, then I guess, at some point, that means you accept them.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“She was trying to teach me the rules of being a successful woman as she understood them. And it never occurred to her that women might be able to write those rules for themselves.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“We’re here to be alive. To keep going. To find all kinds of ways to thrive anyway. We’re here to feel it all. To love and cry and love some more. We’re here to rescue ourselves - and everybody else - in every way that we can.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“The story of your life is always full of mystery. You can unfold it on a table like a map, and study it, and understand it in new ways.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“She has really let herself go. Maybe that was right. And maybe that was a good thing.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“That longing to be looked at lovingly? That longing to be lovable … that’s really also so much about wanting to be valued, and seen, and connected, and safe, and just deeply, fundamentally okay? Maybe we didn’t have to outsource that. Maybe we could fill that longing for ourselves.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“No one’s born fearless,” Rue said. “You have to earn”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“I was very good at doing what needed to be done. I was good at achieving goals.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“And when a person who’s good at something says that you are also good at that same thing . . . it’s nice.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“People are resilient. We keep going, We find all kinds of ways to thrive anyway.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“but you don’t just have relationships with other people. You have one with yourself, too.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“So I couldn’t lay all of my insecurities at Lucas Banks’ feet. Some of them were courtesy of Angela. Some of them came from just being a girl in a world that is appallingly mean to girls. Do any of us escape unscathed?”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“It was such an odd idea, when you think about it: that I could hurt the world back by hurting myself.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“In the past, I’d coped with the meanness by just shutting down—like a little pill bug curling up into a ball.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“No one’s born fearless,” Rue said. “You have to earn it.” Then she added, gesturing at the swimsuit dangling from my hand, “Every time you have to be brave, you get to be a little braver next time. That’s what life is for.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“But I hadn't thought I hated love. I'd thought I was just recovering from it.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“The funny thing about the internet is that it’s basically a collective hallucination. If you don’t join in”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“Some of them came from just being a girl in a world that is appallingly mean to girls. Do any of us escape unscathed?”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“even if we do eternally need and long and want to be seen … maybe the most important eyes doing the looking are our own.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“That’s what no one ever tells you. You can look around with your own eyes. You can find your own details. Notice for yourself what matters—and decide what it means.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“Except for this: strong relationships had to create a culture of appreciation. A whole book, and that was all I’d retained: People in good relationships had to appreciate each other—say thank you, give compliments, notice what their partner was getting right—in ways that created a cushion of warmth and kindness that eased everything else.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“I will never listen to it.” “Never is a long time.” “Fine. I’ll listen to it on my ninetieth birthday. I’ll drink a whole bottle of champagne, listen to this song, and then throw myself off a cliff.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“I just suddenly understood in a whole new, sun-breaking-through-the-clouds way that even if we do eternally need and long and want to be seen … maybe the most important eyes doing the looking are our own.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters

“We're here to be alive. To feel the sun on our skin. To breathe deep in the wind, We're here to feel it all. To love and cry and love some more.”
― Katherine Center, The Love Haters