The Anxious-Avoidant Trap Quotes

“If you have been holding out for a partnership that is void of any conflict or differences, one simply does not exist.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“If you or your partner are resorting to surrendering your needs for the sake of maintaining your relationship, take note that these are signs of people-pleasing behavior and self-betrayal, not compromise.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“Healthy communication is not simply superficial chitchat; it involves honest feelings on topics that may be triggering to one or both partners.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“I believe the most important elements in a healthy relationship are communication, compromise, and consistency.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“Self-abandonment is a pattern of neglecting your own emotional and physical needs in order to ‘keep the peace’ with others.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“Your attachment style becomes less important than the tools you use to help yourself feel more secure within your relationships.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“An abusive relationship typically includes choices in partners who have histories of destructive and narcissistic behavior, and who commonly struggle with their own mental health or addictions, leaving you at risk for continuing a caregiver role. Abusive and trauma-bonded relationships are characterized by intense highs and lows, severe enmeshment, loss of identity, coercive control, and cycles of abuse and manipulation, followed by intermittent calm.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“If you are more avoidantly attached, emotional intimacy is often seen as something you simultaneously want but fear. Many who are more avoidantly attached are drawn to the intensity and newness of the early stages of a relationship. Yet, they often start pumping the brakes when the relationship becomes more emotionally intimate.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection