Not Quite Healed Quotes

“That is, if I understand God’s abounding love and grasp that God forgives me even though I don’t deserve it, the realization produces one powerful result: I forgive others. On every level and no matter how superficially or deeply I was hurt.”
― Cecil Murphey, Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“I’m learning that I have to practice forgiveness, and sometimes it feels as if I have to do it moment by moment. Whenever the trigger gets pulled or the cloud of shame descends, I’m learning to see it as an invitation to forgive. My negative reaction means I’m aware of my lack of releasing my grudge or pain against them. It also means I can learn to let go of the hurts they caused.”
― Cecil Murphey, Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“I wish I could say that I’m totally healed; but that would be a lie. This much I can say: I’m as straightforward and transparent as I’m capable of being. In the recovery process, I’ve searched relentlessly for total healing. I don’t know if that labels me quick or slow, truly open or slightly self-deceived.”
― Cecil Murphey, Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

“I could conceive of them as evil, monstrous, and devoid of decency. Or I could think of them as men and sometimes women who are so controlled by their pain, they’re unable to care enough about the people they hurt to be able to change their reprehensible behavior.”
― Cecil Murphey, Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse